Broke it all? You only mentioned quitting a job you didn't seem to much like. The most simple lives I've ever witnessed are far more complicated than that. What else broke?

Personally, I don't believe money is too awful much more than shark bait. When I pay my bills, I am honoring my agreements far more than I am worshipping the all-mighty dollar. I think of money as the wind beneath my wings. If I develop my life plans with honest integrity, the wind will be there. Wind beneath wings which are not ready to fly will damage the wings, possibly to irreparable extents. Operating from a small budget is no tragedy. When the money is not there for me, I figure I just need to work on my life plans a little more. Sometime ALLOT more. ^It^ takes what ^it^ takes.

With or without money, the more simple the design, the harder it is to break. I love simplicity.

Then we get to all those pointless dramas of life. . . The simplicity that works for me there is, "God grant me the serenity to accept what I cannot change." Not too awful many of those are not even mine to sort.

A good job doesn’t necessarily have to pay more or as much. A good job is one you enjoy or that doesn’t cause a lot of stress. I get that. But money is important. Just ask someone who is poor and struggling.

I work 50 plus hours a week at a high stress job. I’ve been doing this kind of work for a couple of decades. And yet consider myself to have a simple life. I think what makes it simple comes down to each choice I make every single day. Even when things go side ways or there is stress, and inevitability there is throughout a person’s life, the simplicity and peace is really a state of mind and a state of being and the choices we make.

Own your choice and be accountable for your choice. That is living an authentic life. Saying your roommate “convinced” you that you can financially do it seems a way to be able to blame him if it goes off the rails. Just own the choice as your own choice, 100%. You can’t claim a drama free, simple life otherwise.

Hope everything works out for you.

RMB makes a good point. You don't want to be even more dependent on your roommate, who according to your other posts, you owe him money for that surgery and there have recently been some blurry boundaries regarding having intimacy with him and you wanted to stop having sex with him. I hope he doesn't hold all of this (new) financial stuff over your head to control you.

I really, really hope that you will find a job. I think it is more important to do, especially with the "debt" (financially and now... otherwise???) that you think you "owe" to your roommate.

A question you might want to think about is, "Is it really just this job that is causing me stress in my life?" I know you have been dealing with a lot of other stressors (your other recent break up, a big surgery). And think about if you will feel even more obligated to this roommate now?

Better to stand on your own two feet. Having independence and feeling free is a great feeling. No stress or obligation for you that way. Good luck to you.

Hey B-Bridges, how's it going today? How are you feeling about your choice, 2 days removed? Has your employer made any moves to try and keep you? That typically doesn't happen, but if it does, make sure you let yourself "feel the love". Something I've been trying to do more in my life lately is "intentionality". I've never felt any clear pull to one career path or another, and even now, nearly 20yrs into it, I don't have a good answer for what I want to do. My career just happened. I've been winging it all along. For the most part it's worked out, but I think if I set out a purpose for my work, a purpose for my income years ago I'm confident my stress and satisfaction all these years would be greatly improved. It's never too late to set a purpose for your work and $. You've got a perfect opportunity to set that for yourself now. Godspeed friend.