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Terrified when I should not be

blixxa
blixxa
Thursday morning, the movers are coming to move me back to my home town. I get to be near friends, family, a new great job, new apartment in a great area, but I'm sad and freaking out.

I am actually getting sick when I think about the move. My apartment is in chaos. I will be leaving a few good friends up here that have seen me through hard times like the breakup with my fiancee of 6 years. A guy I started seeing but found out his ex is still living with him (he says its so he can be near his son) is sad that I"m leaving. Hes the first guy I'v had a connection with since the split.

I dont know why I"m freaking out. I hate moving (I dont know anyone that does), but I actually woke up from a nap short of breath and bawling.

I wonder if I made a mistake. I'm not happy up here, but I dont know if I will be happy down there. All I know is something had to change or, well... I dont know what I would do.

I dont know how to make it through the next 2 days.
BabyMonkey
BabyMonkey
Think about all the exciting things it will bring into your life. Think about all the opportunities you will have. Who knows this move may cause you to run into the love of your life. Life is weird like that. Try and think about all the positive things. I think what you are going through is normal though, you are grieving a loss. Let yourself be sad but then think about all the good that is about to come into your life!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Change is frightening. I know, because I started a new job myself and now I'm dealing with a relapse.

Be good to yourself. Write down all the good stuff you have to look forward to. Talk it out with someone if you can. Breathe deeply. Take as many 15 min breaks as you need to calm down.

I know, easier said than done. Just try to remember all the things that you enjoy when you are feeling well. And surround yourself with kindness. Give yourself time. Change for us takes a lot of time. ***bug hugs**

~Kim
deleted_user
deleted_user
Haha that should read BIG hugs. Silly autocorrect.
blixxa
blixxa
Thanks BabyMonkey and KimN77. And Kim, your bug hugs made me laugh for the first time in days. I thought it was fitting since your icon is a butterfly :)
rskb3
rskb3
I agree with Kim that change is so hard for anyone but with someone with anxiety it is 10 times worse. You are scared of the unknown and that is understandable. Like babymonkey said try to think of all the good things that are ahead of you, is your family there? If so that will be wonderful for you. Just try to breath through your anxiety and tell yourself that you are making the right decision and that you are safe. I hope that you have a great move and are very happy with your new home and job.