Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I’ve had a lot of horrible things happen to me. I have panic attacks, I used to self harm, I’ve had eating disorders and I can’t sleep due to my anxiety. Recently my fiancé has left me. Sometimes I feel hopeless because I was already at odds and struggling with myself, now I feel 100 times worse losing the person who is supposed to help me through my depression/anxiety. My heart beats so fast and it wakes me in my sleep because I feel like I can’t breathe.
I am on the same boat as you. Self harm, anxiety , eating disorder and I have lost my significant other along my journey. I feel for you and your not alone. Feel free to message me if you would like to talk.
But I tell you what: you were born alone, you will die alone, and a huge amount of your reality, especially the internal reality, you will bear alone.
We must carry ourselves. Otherwise we fall victim to two different things.:
1. the manipulator. This person likes us needy, and will carry us, disabling us, feeding our victim mentality until we are absolutely dependent upon them. Then they will start to turn he screws. only when they are firmly latched on do they start to suck us dry and by that time we've invested in them, and more importantly usually told them our secrets.
2. the non-manipulator. This person will leave us if he feels parasitised. He's carrying himself, is not a burden. This makes him attractive to us, he seems strong. We grab him, parasitise him, lean on him, suck his life force out of him... and he goes.
If you want guy no. 2 you have to learn how to hold yourself when things turn to custard. How to be dignified and upright. And that means no self harm. no alcohol abuse, no drug abuse, no crutches, no leaning, only standing. Even if you feel the planet has crumbled away beneath you, no crutches. No sellouts. No copouts.
If you refuse to give into crutches you grow. You get under so much pressure that something goes pop and you think 'bugger this, i won't live with this, it's not survivable!' and you ditch that lover/change that job/ dump that parasitic friend/ move house/ find a new gym.
No pressure means no change. So do not release that maturational pressure by purging onto lovers. Get a counsellor, that's what they're trained for and they won't mess up your motivational power.