I can appreciate what you're saying, being around others, adapting to their procedures, ways of doing things, can be hard.

Oh yeah sometimes I can’t socialise much at all or even go shopping but funnily I have good days too. CBT is good for this. It’s great your partner is supportive, I’ve never had that.

My social anxiety is intense enough that I usually dissociate before the socializing begins. It can take me weeks to recover my senses after the socializing is done. Group discussions are typically more than I can handle at the best of time. I typically shut down with the first, "But. . ."

I'm not sure there is enough therapy in the world to make me a social superstar. I am grateful that being a social superstar isn't the only option available in life.

Dearfrostypinksun, It is so great that your significant other is supportive. It is so tricky with families. Expectations are high. Be forgiving to yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself. Grace to ourselves can be hard to give. We seem to give grace to all those around us except ourselves. Keep lines of communication open and try to have a heart to heart conversation with the inlaws..... How long have you known them..... Sometimes time is our friend when growing relationships with our inlaws.

I have some things in common with you. If I do not know someone on a personal level, I develop anxiety and avoid talking to them. I have noticed that by starting the conversation with a hello, how are you? introduction helps me cope better with the emotions. You have to keep telling yourself that you are enough and think of the positives aspects of yourself. Do not beat yourself up, no one is perfect.