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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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SO frustrating!!!!

thestruggleisreal
thestruggleisreal
It's so frustrating to me that I can't seem to bring myself to socialize with even my own family. As I type this, my family are having a party for my cousin who's visiting from Vegas! You'd think because they're my family I would be ok around them. But I do have a huge family and I'm up stairs and can hear them all having a blast, yet I can't get up enough courage to go down and join them. I have a huge family and with that many ppl in one place just sends my anxiety through the rough! Shitty situation to say the least and SOOOOO freaking frustrating!! :(
andrealambert
andrealambert
Omg, that does sound frustrating. I just spent most of today and last night socializing with my boyfriend's enormous family and i am so worn out.

As an introvert and a sober person it is kind of hard to hang out with people who drink a lot and as I head into the holiday season I realize it's just going to be more and more of these intensive social situations so I might as well dust off my Xanax and weed and put on some gold eye shadow.

But fuck it, nights like tonight all I want to do is sit around with the TV on where it's dark and quiet and i don't have to talk to anyone.
Restful
Restful
I don't think we should feel bad at all about not socializing with people who drain our energy. We aren't obligated to connect with anyone who creates discomfort in our lives.
BriaLeCiriox
BriaLeCiriox
Hi friend! I have been there as well. One of 14 cousins and all the aunt/uncles/extended family around can be very overwhelming. Luckily, I had a cousin who experienced the same thing, so the family understood and wouldn't pressure me too much. I tried to just single out one family member, or a couple members at a time. Nothing too crazy until/if I was ready for it. Small steps, and few deep breaths and absolutely NO judgement. You are a wonderful person just as you are. :)
enigmaticloner
enigmaticloner
I have a hard time doing that as well, but I rarely ever see most of my family so it's not too big of a problem anymore really. Try not to feel bad, some people just aren't able to handle certain things, no one is prefect.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Take time to just be in the edge of the room, focus on one person, one face, and relax (practice all the relaxation techniques so you get comfortable to do them as needed).

You got this, it's difficult to sort out the voices, the sounds, the clatter, the separate areas of loud sound, and once you figure out where they are coming from, often this releases part of the anxiety for social events.

Best wishes.
Fleurdelisa27
Fleurdelisa27
I get that way sometimes with my family too. Especially if everybody arrives while I am still upstairs getting ready, because then I feel like all eyes are on me as I "descend the stairs and make my grand entrance".

lol....sounds dramatic but in my mind that is the reality of it. Cuz its all about me, right? I have to roll my eyes at myself sometimes.

But anyway, hope you got through it okay. :)
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