Did you finish harvesting the crops?

I should. . .

Don’t should on yourself. Show up and do what you can. Listen to your body, mind and heart. Be you. Embrace you. Be proud of the little things right now.

Thank you, Marah. I haven't broken anything yet this morning. It's still early.

Works in progress. . .

ohhh arfie........the one who always responds, with understanding, compassion and humour.......the one who takes on an unofficial, unconditional support role.........you should have ??????? Done what more??????? Are you not continuing to do more than enough???????? Who do you think you are letting down???????? Cos from the what I see on-line, you should NOT be beating yourself up.........are you referring back to a past when you were so traumatised you could do no more than survive???????

I try not to analyze my psychotic snot knots. Like my physical body fluids, they are best handled in laboratories with precautionary/containment measures in play. Past, present, future and delusion weave together like clouds when I am shoulding around.

Thank you for the reminder that compassion and gentle humor are strong medicine.

Do you know why the tomato turned red?
He saw the salad dressing.

why did lettice leaf? because she was free to do so

Guess she got fed up with all those peeping tomatoes. . .

I have not been on here long but from what I have seen you are an incredibly supportive and understanding person. Don’t should...because you’ve done so much for others by being you and being here. I don’t know you well, just what I’ve seen in your posts, so I will say this...I’m grateful to see your uplifting messages and your amazing unwavering support. I offer my support to you...you are a great person, don’t forget that!

Thank you, Ebraze. Support and validation greatly appreciated.

Whenever I *try* to help other people, I only seem to pave new roads to hell with my good intentions. The support I offer here is strictly selfish and personal. It helps me sort through yaddahs I probably wouldn't consider on my own and remind me of what has helped in the past. In addition, what goes around comes around. Support is one of those phenoms that the more you give, the more you have.

sending gentle support. remember to be kind to yourself, Ive been struggling with a tight chest lately, and have a hard time starting the day off.... but I am being compassionate about it (Atleast trying too). Anxiety spikes the "shoulding"... =/ anyways... sometimes there are off days, and today im allowing the off day for my own sanity. Letting you know your not alone, and be gentle with yourself. It'll pass. For better days.

Thank you, Lucille. I've never gotten a clear handle on which is cause and which is effect, but there is zero doubt inside my skin that the anxiety attacks and should attacks are connected.

It helps to know I am not alone. With as mean as I get in the self-flagellation, I can't have too many reminders to be gentle.

Hugs & support Arfie. As you know I too suffer from a bad case of the “I should” on a regular basis.

And I think that we often forget that just because the roads to hell are paved with good intentions, there would be absolutely no roads leading anywhere, Hell or Heaven, without someone intent on paving them. The road to road to salvation is paved with good intentions just as much as the other direction. I think the difference only lies in the constructive maintenance of those intentions.

Hugs, love & support, Arfie.

Shoulding seems to be a common quality among human doings and over-analyzers.

Seems to me that our greatest accomplishments are should-free joys. Intentions and attitudes count for something in this equation.

should, would, could...mine roll together ... and when the dam burst ... oh, what a mess ...

You are always on the nose, bulls eye with your words, eloquently shared. Sometimes, the help we give here is not always noticed like a round of applause, a standing ovation, cheers, and the virtual hug on the back!

Here's hoping you find your center of balance to help you rock and roll through this adventure. When the brain wants opposite of what the feelings want and the body is just singing to the tune that works in the moment, we often take our thoughts on a meandering path to the edge of the water.

Best wishes.