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Scary Dad.

ChristianWhovian
ChristianWhovian

Last night, my dad started yelling at everyone while we were eating dinner about the dishes. My Mom and I just got back from our trip and the dishes were piled up. We ended up having to do the dishes because my sisters woudn't do them because of how angry he was. He was yelling until we couldn't handle it and we tried to stop him. He doesn't listen to us. Today, he got after my sister for not having a job.



It's really scary when he's like this. He yells and yells and yells and spits and on our faces as he's yelling. If we try to stand up for ourselves or the people he's yelling at, he gets angry and insults us. Sometimes, as he's yelling, he walks towards us and we tell him not to hurt us and he says he won't but he keeps walking towards us and yelling at us and if we stand our ground he grabs us and starts to pull us and move us to where he wants us. He's really scary.



He takes pictures of us and we tell him not to post them and he says he won't but he does. He complains about my voice. It's high pitched and when I'm in a good mood, it gets higher. Now I'm really self consious about my voice. I really don't like it.



I know that he might be an emotionally abusive father or a toxic father or whatever. I don't know what to do. Please can someone give me advice?

arfie
arfie
dunno. . . sounds pretty abusive and toxic to me. . . healing measures needed for all of you. healing hopes for all. no exceptions.

i like to think of mental illness/toxicity as a condition all humans suffer at least once in their lives, whether formally diagnosed or knot. ^it^ is a condition, not a character trait any more than colds and cancers are character traits. this little shift in focus allows me to compassionately detach from an attacker's cruelties far enough to continue loving them while neither judging nor taking the cruelty to heart and tending my own healing needs.

rocking you gently and crying with you, christian.
don't rush the recovery time.
be gentle with yourself and patient with the process.
mtd
mtd
Everybody loses their cool once in a while, especially if they’ve been under a lot of stress. Look at the facts before you write him off as “toxic” or abusive. If he’s never hit you before, that’s a good thing and chances are he never will. I guess I’d be pretty angry to have dirty dishes piles up when there are young ladies in the house capable of doing them. Maybe your dad had all he could handle at the moment. Don’t be too hasty in your judgment, look at the facts and his point of view.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Call 911 next time this happens. We can't help you with something this big.
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