You gotta realize no matter who you are with in a relationship there's always going to be something your not going to like or something your going to feared of. So he doesn't own a piece of real estate but how do you know that won't happen down the line.

Maybe your just not quite ready for a big step. When I 1st met my husband he didn't have anything. But thru out time you work together and be patient you be surprised on what you can accomplish.I find if you look for 100 percent perfection your going to be disappointed. I got a older sister she could never hold a marriage she only lasted 2 years a relationship she's lucky she gets 6 months to a year and I try telling her that.

I wish you the best of luck and consider if he's a professional at least he's not at home all day playing video games and not doing a thing.

Every case is unique, but my own need to run is connected to my flight instincts and my flight instincts are wa-a-a-ay over-developed by the long-gone human doings that nurtured my anxiety/PTSD. When my hyper-vigilance kicks in, any excuse to run will due. There are things in life worth running from, but for the sake of stability, I've put allot of therapy work into learning how to think before I push people away. Damned humans. . . Imperfect, every single one. . . Except me, of course.

Gentle support while you sort your own, Kennedi.

For what it's worth:
Sometimes sorting the psychoyaddahs of my over-developed flight instinct is easier if I let myself have a road trip. For me, it's easier to sort the psychopations of why I run while I am deliberately running. A spot of gentle fun helps the medicine go down.

Run kennedi Run! Lol. Ugh thanks for the feedback. As I think about how I’m scared of my own damn shadow and how I try to forecast the future I’m gonna one day just say fuk it and live life. But I’m not quite there yet I’m still running around out here scared and frightful of people places and things. Oh my. lol.
But yes my friend he used to own a home and got divorced so he’s reeling from
That but he has darn good taste, drives a Porsche and dresses very nice. Here I go again with all this status and superficial bull crap though. I need to look at him - what’s in his heart and all and maybe just go
With it for now perhaps. Baby steps.

That's great he owns a nice Porsche and dresses nice That's not what makes a person. If he's good to you doesn't lie by pretending to be someone he's not and most of all respectfull to you and others as well that's what mostly matters.try to think how you would feel about him if he didn't have that.

Gotcha. Yeah if he didn’t have that I wouldn’t be interested. That’s a great point. Wow. I had an aha moment. Wow

When you are standing in the aftermath of a storm, with just what you have on, and have to start over, it becomes a lot easier to figure out what's most important.

Things can be replaced. People can not.

Status changes. In a heart beat. Life changes.

Take time to see the value in you, the way you are, and look at what you offer. It's often a real eye-opener.

Best wishes!

Thanks Mid! I’m definitely a work in progress pray for me.

@kennedi0 I am proud of you for knowing what you want in a partner/relationship. many people do not know this. I can understand why you say you want to "run". Sometimes, a person needs to be open minded. Ask yourself, why does the idea of my partner bother me so much. Is it a factor that makes or breaks the relationship. does it make you feel like he is less of a person for the reason why you want to "run". take time to find truth. Be real to yourself and communicate.