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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Rollercoaster

studentbydaymombynight
studentbydaymombynight

Hey guys! Today was an emotional rollercoaster of a day. First thing this morning I drove my normal hour and fifteen minutes to school, had a grueling scanning practial. Glad that is over. Then I bought my daughter her first car, a good part of my day! After that I worked for about 5 hours at a sister store, not my usual store. Then I get home to my daughter and husband argueing. He is not her dad but has been a part of her life for 10 years, however over the last year they have drifted farther a part! I just want to run and hide. Not to mention I have started breaking out in hives all over! This stress is going to be my undoing. I can't help but feel like I should be doing more to help my family but I just do not know what the right move is.


arfie
arfie
When I don't know what the right move is, nothing is usually the best thing to do. I create some of my most tangled psycho snot knots by forcing my way through uncertainty and doubts. When I just let ^it^ be, the solutions have a way of presenting themselves in due time, especially when the problem isn't mine to sort in the first place. However much I love my family, not all of their problems are about me. Every life has challenges of its own that only they can rise to. Not even Mighty Mom gets to do it for them.

Steadying support while you rise to your own challenges. Stress can, indeed, undo the strongest of us. Vent freely. Vent often. Listening. . .
Anij34
Anij34
There is this false guilt that hangs over every single mom. The key here is if you believe the lie or not. What lie? The lie that you are not enough. That you are not doing enough.

You are enough. Exactly as you are. You are doing more than enough. Exactly as things are.

Go back and reread all you've done. For everyone else. What are you doing for yourself? What is your self-care routine? Don't have one? Now is the time to create one. Maybe its as simple as the fancy coffee you can make at home or the fancy whipped cream to top it with. Maybe its a pedicure or simply going to a bookstore to browse the books and have some quiet time. It doesn't have to be super time consuming or expensive. But do something for yourself.

And, as always, YOU ARE ENOUGH!
studentbydaymombynight
studentbydaymombynight
Man thank you both for your kind words. I have major mom guilt because I feel like we are all sacrificing so I can go to school and for that I feel so selfish. I appreciate the reminder that I am enough. I do always feel like I have to get involved and many times that is not the right choice. Thank you both again for the affirmations!
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