Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Erica71 07/08/2012

This is just random drivel.....and not new information.....we've probably all heard of it....but today...I sit here really contemplating it. My mind is always going straight to some negative "what if" before I do or even think about doing anything. Can you guys relate to this? I mean I guess it's like anything else...we have to be realistic with it....for example....Thursday I have to take me and the kids to the dentist for our 6 months check ups...my anxiety has been high lately and so yep...you guessed it....my mind has been filled with...."what if I can't make it there"...."what if I freak out in the chair"...etcc..etccc...you all know the drill. Anyway...to reverse those what ifs....I wouldn't need to say to myself...."AWESOME....I get to take me and the kids to the dentist...we'll have a fabulous time weeeeeeeeeee" I mean come on...way to unrealistic.....but maybe I could just say to myself..."you've done it before...it's really no big deal....you'll be fine" and start putting these thoughts there as soon as I have the other negative ones. Blah Blah Blah...I'm kinda boring myself here but anyway you guys understand. Also..the dentist is just one example....I have GOT to start reversing these what ifs....it's amazing how it really can just become habitual. Just reminding myself to work on it. That is all. Have a GREAT day. =)

deleted_user 07/08/2012

Great post Erica! I feel you for going to the dentist. It is one of my bigger struggles because I think the same things:-) I practice positive self talk all the way up to the chair. And I say things like "My teeth are healthy and strong", "this is going to be fast and easy", "I will smile and be pleasant", "I can handle this quickly and easily".

My last appointment the power went out while I was in the chair! And despite that, I still had a good appointment and no cavaties. My gums are better and I am back to going every 6 months again-yeah!!!

Do make it a habit. It will eventually replace the old negative ruts we have right now. I am with you 100%.

Pollybizz 07/08/2012

I'm sure understanding where you are coming from. Because of cholesterol meds, I have to get blood taken every 3 months....after 10 yrs should be used to it??? NOT....I get so proud of myself when I don't get woozy.....but the What if gets me all the time...but trying to keep it at bay

Read a good slogan this weekend.

"What if's"are as useless as trying to go for a walk when your shoes are nailed to the floor

deleted_user 07/08/2012

Thanks Erica! I was just thinking along the same lines.. I was going down the oh no tomorrow is Monday and I am going to wake up anxious...but then I had a flash...what tool from my "tool bag" will i use tomorrow if I need to, if I am anxious? I felt kinda excited about tackling it! Woo Hoo!

I will be thinking of you and your post when i start my day tomorrow! Best of Luck to you!

Erica71 07/08/2012

Thanks you all very much for appreciating my post! Loved that quote about the shoes nailed to the floor. We may at times feel lonely in this world..but it's nice to have a place to come to...where everyone understands you and knows what you're going through. Very nice!

litebrite 07/08/2012

Like! I wonder. What if I didn't what if everything? Would life run a bit smoother? My guess...yes. I am working on it too.

Polly...love the slogan.

Erica71 07/08/2012

Could end up being kinda fun. :P

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