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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Relationships and anxiety??

suedheeead
suedheeead

How does your significant other deal with how you are?? 


With all the anxiety and everything. I feel like my bf just doesn’t understand. He’s very supportive but he gets frustrated. I cry and tell him everything that’s wrong and he never can say anything back... all he does is kiss me and hold me.. don’t get me wrong it’s very sweet and I love that he does that but I feel like he does it because he doesn’t know what to say or he doesnt care. I wish he would really look into this. Learn more about anxiety. I feel so fucking alone and I’m just so close to the edge. I really want help..

squidbilly821
squidbilly821
It is hard to explain to someone who has not experienced it. I have not come up with a solution. My bf has learned to leave me to it. mine is strictly upon wakening. It does pass and intellectually I know it is a mirage. but everyday is a bit much and is overwhelming me. My bf has some psychology experience and is at a loss. so take your canoedling from your bf and understanding from others who know what you are experiencing.
bridgie101
bridgie101
nope. You can't drag him down your rabbit hole with you. Let him lift you up into the real world instead.

If you've got a guy who's normal then you have a yardstick to measure yourself against. If he's kind as well, you are doing very well. But don't drag him into your illness.

Don't expect that sense of understanding from him that you want. It's not available, and that's not because of him, it's because the chemical state you are in at the time means that nothing he said or did would lift the weight for you.

He is doing the only thing he can do, and it is great you have someone doing that. But get your conversational support from your girlfriends. k?
Flight_Medic
Flight_Medic
When we start relying on our significant other to pull us out of darkness, we set ourselves up for failure...and risk chasing them away in the process. Unless your "bf" is a board certified psychologist or licensed professional counselor he shouldn't be expected to know what to say to you in your manic phase. That's why you seek out professional help. Accept that the physical tenderness he shows you is all he knows to give...and be grateful for that.

You know what my ex-fiance used to say? "Dude, take a Xanax.". I didn't even get the kiss or hug.