Anxiety Support Group
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Thanks for taking the time to read this. I'm really struggling and I have no idea what to do.
I have been seeing someone for about 6 months now. We are monogamous, the I love yous have been said and things are going pretty well. I will say though that she is more of the spontaneous type and I am the over thinker.
About a month and a half ago she told me that she was going to Cancun with her sister, cousin and two female friends for her sisters birthday. Out of all of the women going, she is the only person in a relationship. She leaves the end of this month for about a week.
As the date gets closer, my anxiety has gotten so bad that I am getting physically sick. I have generalized anxiety disorder so that is to be expected. I'm at the point now where I am asking myself do Iend it now, do I wait until she comes back to end it, or do I just disappear and when she comes back not answer her calls, texts, etc..
I have serious trust issues. I am reacting like she has already cheated even though she has not even left yet. Exotic location, booze, a bunch of single people around and I am many miles away. I don't trust anyone to be faithful in that situation and I don't think I am worth enough to be faithful to.
I've been very supportive and will continue to be. I'm not the type of person that would ever try and talk anyone I care about out of something they want to do. When she talks about how excited she is I encourage her and remind her of what a great time she will have. All the while I am telling myself that when she gets on that plane we are finished. Even if she didn't cheat, how would I ever know, I don't think I could ever get past thinking how could she not.
I don't what what I expected by putting this here. I'm shaking and nauseous just thinking about it. It's just going to get worse as the date gets closer.
Thanks
I have been seeing someone for about 6 months now. We are monogamous, the I love yous have been said and things are going pretty well. I will say though that she is more of the spontaneous type and I am the over thinker.
About a month and a half ago she told me that she was going to Cancun with her sister, cousin and two female friends for her sisters birthday. Out of all of the women going, she is the only person in a relationship. She leaves the end of this month for about a week.
As the date gets closer, my anxiety has gotten so bad that I am getting physically sick. I have generalized anxiety disorder so that is to be expected. I'm at the point now where I am asking myself do Iend it now, do I wait until she comes back to end it, or do I just disappear and when she comes back not answer her calls, texts, etc..
I have serious trust issues. I am reacting like she has already cheated even though she has not even left yet. Exotic location, booze, a bunch of single people around and I am many miles away. I don't trust anyone to be faithful in that situation and I don't think I am worth enough to be faithful to.
I've been very supportive and will continue to be. I'm not the type of person that would ever try and talk anyone I care about out of something they want to do. When she talks about how excited she is I encourage her and remind her of what a great time she will have. All the while I am telling myself that when she gets on that plane we are finished. Even if she didn't cheat, how would I ever know, I don't think I could ever get past thinking how could she not.
I don't what what I expected by putting this here. I'm shaking and nauseous just thinking about it. It's just going to get worse as the date gets closer.
Thanks
which would be a bad idea. You will have to trust someone if you are
ever going to have a successful relationship. I have had girlfriends i trusted and others I didnt. If you spend enough time with a person , you
develop a feel for what kind of person they are . Has she ever done
anything that made you suspiscious ?For example, do you catch her lying to other people ? If you are truly happy in the relationship, it
would be a shame to ruin it because of your own insecurities [which
Im sure you recognize] . I am an over thinker myself , so I understand
your issues.
people
"I don't trust anyone to be faithful in that situation and I don't think I am worth enough to be faithful to."
If you don't feel worthy enough then you shouldn't be dating someone. We all have our own insecurities yes, but you have to like you first. And perhaps you are picking the wrong type that loves to go to Cancun for a vacation if that bothers you. I myself don't drink, so a partying place wouldn't be for me and everyone is different. Seek some counseling to work on you rather than worrying about what someone else is doing that you aren't even sure of. :)
She is a wonderful person. We just had an amazing evening together. She surprised me by bringing over take out from our favorite Italian place. She has never given me any reason not to trust her. I've met most of her extended family and I've literally had more sit down dinners with her and her parents in the last 5 months than I have had with my own parents my entire life. She is as open and honest as anyone could ask for.
My problem is that I grew up with a mother who would rather lie about the smallest things over taking even the smallest chance that there could be any conflict. She always underestimated me thinking that I was too stupid to find out. I mean lying directly to my face about even the smallest insignificant things. She still does but I'm old enough not to give a damn about what she says or does anymore. Lying to your kids can scar them for life, I'm living proof of that.
Thanks again