Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Erica71 07/30/2013

I know this is a depressing topic..but I have to get something off of my chest. Today, I got on Facebook and was hit with a member of my husband's family dying. (one of his cousins) I was hit with panic immediately....racing heart, shortness of breath..etc.. I am always hit this way when a member of the family dies or a friend of the family. It doesn't matter if I was close to them or not....it just hits me with full force. I've had anxiety my whole life and so I'm not sure why this surprises me....also I've always reacted this way. I just wish I knew what exactly throws me into such a state of anxiety/panic. Why upon hearing the news..can't I just put things in perspective and deal with it accordingly. Can anyone relate to this...does anyone else have severe anxiety reactions to this type of news? Thanks in advance.

Persi 07/30/2013

Death is scary. When death affects those we know it makes us afraid for our own family, and even for ourselves. At least, that is how I feel. Was it unexpected?

Erica71 07/30/2013

Thank you..yes it was unexpected. She was around 46. They found her in her salon. =(

Persi 07/31/2013

That is very scary to think about. I think it is natural to be a little anxious about death when it comes suddenly to someone you know. Unfortunately our anxiety takes hat fear and twists it. It is okay to feel anxious and concerned but what happened to her need not happen to you. Everyone is following their on paths in life. what happened to her is very unlikely to happen to you.

Erica71 07/31/2013

Thank you Persi. =) It's not that I'm even afraid of that happening to me. I actually think I fear death less than other stuff. I just get tired of my same old knee jerk reaction to any kind of bad news. =( Thanks again for your replies.

MsBlank1 07/31/2013

I work at a funeral home and so death is all around me a lot.
I guess I am mostly desensitized to death and 99.99999% of the time, I do not know the person. However, I can understand how shocking news about someone who passes away unexpectedly can shake up a person or set off their anxiety.....I have had that happen to me about other upsetting/knee jerk situations. I have to ride it out and do deep breathing exercises.....changing the thought pattern is more difficult.
If there is any way I can help or answer any questions that may give you some relief about death, I'd be glad to help.

Erica71 07/31/2013

Thanks Ms. Blank. I guess it's just who I am as far as my reactions go. So long as the most intense reaction part doesn't last more than a few minutes....I guess it'll be ok. LOL Thanks again.

deleted_user 07/31/2013

I can so so much what yo describe is me and it is weird if you want to talk your more then welcome to message me I have the same symptoms you have even though it might be expected you never know when there going to go and when it is expected I still feel that way I thought I was the only one wow

Erica71 07/31/2013

No Widdercolleen you're not alone. Thanks for your reply. =)

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