Happily married for 33 years. Wife pretty, sociable, happy, decided to move after kids left near to the beach, had problems finding house let one go because of indecision, ended up in a rental, displaced, worried, wife lost about 50 pounds, had significant stress, and now suffers from horrible anxiety, is anti-social, not interested in speaking with friends or family, depressed, angry at herself. Questions,
1. Calls, Wife was always social, but now avoids calls. Sometimes I will give her the phone from a friend or family member and she seems happy and may talk for a 1/2 hour, but initially gets angry and sometimes a little violent, threw the phone or something else.
2. Therapy I come at the end of therapy and usually have a group of questions. Therapist is out of pocket. It seems like they talk a little but accomplish relatively little, this is her 3rd therapist, and the basic issues seem to be acknowledging a serious problem, preparing for the session with specific goals, and then using the session to accomplish it. Initially her view seemed to be soft-pedal or minimize the problem.
3. Self-image Wife is pretty. She gained about 35-40 lbs over the last 10 years, I am happy I did not make a big deal of it, she saw herself as pretty and was happy. Many women want to lose weight and now she has a striking figure, but a little big of change from the weight loss. Now she says she is ugly and embarassed to go out.
4. Candor, sarcasm She usually walks around and accomplishes little. What she should do seems straightforward, try to get out, work on stress reduction, listen to tapes, prepare for sessions, try to mirror what you did before you became ill. Is sarcasm appropriate, hey great, sure, just walk around and be miserable and not try to improve your life, great plan and you've been doing it for the last 4 months. One can be patient, and I try not to get angry, but it is hard.
Hi. I found this group today from advice on my insurance information. Glad to have found a space. Hope it helps and hope I can help someone in need as well. Don't feel useful anymore. Maybe I can be an "ear" for someone at least.
Even though we might not know each other outside of DS, I value, cherish, and am so grateful for you all! It's amazing how even if I might take a break from DS (which I'm not doing anymore) you guys are always there for each other! I don't know why it took me so long to realize how important this site is in my life. I sometimes feel like I need to solve my anxiety by myself and it ends up being...