Anxiety is a hard thing to understand if you haven't lived through it.

How old are you? Do you still live at home?

Do you have friends to talk to? Are you going to therapy?

I'm 17, 18 in a few months. I do live with her, I tried to move in with my dad but it didn't work out. Yes, I have friends but I feel like I'm annoying them so I don't talk about it, they guide conversations. And I was seeing a therapist, my mom put a stop to it though. She said it's a phase in life and I need to stop being a baby

But I don't have control when I have an anxiety attack and she doesn't get that

Okay, people that come on here are all different ages. So ya know, it's quite a bit different you being 17 than if you were 37...

And I'm very sorry for the loss of your sister. You sound like you were very close to her. I'm 50 now, but my dad died when I was 22. At the time, he was the ONLY person on this Earth that I was close to ....even in the slightest. So I can relate to your loss.

Is the anxiety tied mostly to your sister's death?

I have to leave in a minute, but I just wanted to add, that my friends were all pathetic about being supportive when I was young too. As for my mom, she never did understand. (I'm a mom now, and I get that it's not easy being both a mom (bad cop) and supportive too. Not easy at all.) Which is NOT to say that that makes it any easier on you.

Two weeks is still so new to grief. Takes at least a year. The funeral is often the easiest thing to get through, because people are around and there's things that you have to do. After everyone leaves...those first weeks are the hardest.

Go easy on yourself. See if you can join a grief support group. You're in my thoughts, Patti

You could also get books on grief from the library. Or look up articles on the subject on the computer. You can also write you thoughts and feelings in a journal. It helps to get them out even if you only write them down.

My parents were in denial of my anxiety and subsequent serious mental illness. I eventually left home and underwent many hospitalizations and homelessness. Finally come out ok with treatment and medication. Do you have access to a mental health center in your town or city? Can you talk to your school psychologist? You need to get help. I am afraid it is something that can get worse before it gets better. Got to get professional help and maybe an anti-anxiety medication such as Buspirone. You can do an Internet search on coping with anxiety. It may be the beginning of such disorder as Bipolar disorder. Look up what the Mayo Clinic website has to say http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anxiety/home/ovc-20168121

First off, I am sorry for the loss of your sister. I am wondering if your mother is letting you grieve your sister? If not I am wondering if you could stay with your dad for a few weeks or so, so that you can all grieve together. Sometimes it is helpful to be around people who are going through the same thing as you are. Also, I think talking to a school psychologist is a great idea. You would be surprised by how many other kids are dealing with the same thing. They may even have a support group there. I am sorry that your mom doesn't understand, maybe you should have your psychologist talk to your mom to maybe make her understand. I hope things get better for you.

I will tell you that you will have the support of your mother from her level of experience. It's all she knows, and she's doing the best she can with her view. It's lacking a few important issues, however, you do not have to change her view, you have to change how you react to it. This is you. It's not your friends, your parents, or anyone else's decision, it's yours. I know you are 17. I also know that you trust your instincts, which are all over the place because you're trying to find that calm peace safe zone that your sister provided, and still does provide. As you grieve, cherish the special moments, the special feelings, and make them a part of your daily routine to keep you "in the moment". When a parent takes away psychological counseling, it becomes a medical issue in some situations. If your dad is willing, ask him to intervene with your mom. You are not alone, you can do this!

I am so sorry about the loss of your sister. Stress does make the anxiety harder to deal with. that is exactly why you need to be under the care of a professional such as a therapist or councilor. Unfortunately family members and even parents will not always understand. What I would suggest is talking to your mother calmly. Write down all the information about your anxiety and how it affects you. Let her know that it is something you absolutely need help with and you must have access to a professional for your own well being. Let her know that she will able to speak with them about your issues so she can understand that it is a real disorder and that you need assistance with it. That will help her understand things better. I know it must be difficult not being able to talk to your sister when you feel panicked. I felt the same way when I lost my father. He was a therapist so he really understood how to help me. I know you feel like you are bothering your friends but please don't feel that way. They are there to help you, that is what friends are for. So I would talk with your closest friends and family one on one and let them know how they can help you. Some may be only available to talk on the phone or see you in person and only at specific times. But that is a good thing. You can make a schedule of who can help and when. This is your support system. But know that it will not be forever. You will be able to get over the anxiety and will one day be able to handle everything on your own. But right now you need a support system to help you through this rough patch so don't feel bad about that. We all need help from time to time. I would also suggest talking to a therapist or counselor at school if you are attending. That way at least you will have some kind of help until your mother comes around. I wish you the best my friend, blessing to you :)

I think you definitely need to go to the school counsellor. You have to be treated as you deserve and you may have to fight through some fear to do that. but with luck in your country you can get anti anxiety medication if that is what is required, without mum's consent.

Mum herself needs a letter from some respected doctor, telling her you have a disorder. Explaining to her that this isn't made up, and that she needs to pull her head in. She doesn't believe in it because she sees it as coming from moral weakness. Ie you're just a coward. She has no idea but perhaps a professional telling her so might help.

also you need to be tested for the MTHFR gene mutation, which causes anxiety. it's a cheap test and an important first step.

I'm pretty much going through something similar to you. My mum passed away suddenly and now my anxiety has went through the roof. I don't have a relationship with my dad and when I tried to explain to others what's happening to me they just brush it off and tell me to put it out of my head. Please know that you're not alone. Feel free to contact me anytime. I'm 26 so a little bit older than you but I feel were going through similar things. Take Care x

I'm sorry for your loss. I understand what it feels like for people to tell you there's nothing wrong with you and your alright. Additionally there is the possibility that this is just your mom's way of handling and coping with things. Have you considered seeking professional help? Perhaps if you received professional help and had proof she might begin to believe you.