Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Lately my anxiety is through the roof I work and come home to so much stress things use to be great at home but later me and my fiance have to walk on eggshells so my anxiety is almost crippling me at this point I'm so exhausted and feel like I'm on the edge of a breakdown.I don't know what to do anymore
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
Yea, the "Date Night" approach never worked for my partner and I, either. Good thing coping mechanisms come in as much diversity as the fools who fall in love. Falling in love is as easy as enjoying a tasty snack. Staying in love is a far, far greater challenge. Relationships are even more diverse than the fools who fall in love.
What does work for us is taking space from one another when the Eggshell Waltz begins and sharing the confusion of ^it^ within our respective support networks. Being partnered doesn't save us from our respective, strictly personal psycho snot knots. Those untangle far more easily without the distractions from the most important relationship in our lives. On the good days, I love the way that man muddles my mind. Not so much on our respective psycho days.
But that is me. . .
Gentle support while you sort your own, Kat. Welcome to the forum.
What are the other problems going on, if you care to share with us? Maybe one of us can think of some ideas to help.
That is a constructive way to find options.
You are responsible for how you act, respond, and react. By working with your well-being first, it is easier to find a positive way to manage this to a better outcome for you and your aunt.
The room mate probably does not like having extra eyes watching your aunt. That happens in a difficult care taker position.
It happens so much more than people realize.
Best wishes to you!
Caretaking is in itself exhausting and demanding. If you're working all day and coming home to needing to take care of the aunt (or if he has to take care of her), it's definitely going to impact your personal health and well-being as well as your relationship health.
Perhaps speaking to a counselor, pastor, or other objective third party would be a way to get everything out on the table, discuss it without it turning into an argument, feel like you're being heard (and he feels like he is, too), and come to some compromise/solution/strategy to deal with this situation.
The more anxious you get, the more you'll arrive home from work without the strength, energy, desire, skill, or hope to face what awaits. It's a vicious cycle.
Are there any other family members who can help the aunt? Is the roommate necessary? Is this just a short season, or is it going to be a long-term arrangement? Can outside help/respite care be obtained? Are there services in the community that can assist?
I'm sure there are solutions. Reach out to one of the ideas above, and do whatever you can to take care of yourself and get the rest you need to be able to care for others.
And may I add...it's an admirable, honorable, generous thing you two are doing to help the aunt. Some family members just don't care. God bless you.