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Over-apologizing

CitrusCinnamon
CitrusCinnamon

One of my teachers recently confronted me about my over-apologetic nature. He knows I have anxiety, but he still told me that I need to stop saying sorry. He used my friends as an example, saying I didn't apologize to them or flinch with them. What he doesn't understand is that I try my hardest to hide my anxiety in front of my friends, but when I'm at school it's a lot harder and it often shines through. When he confronts me about it again (because I know he will), what do I say? Do I tell him that it's harder to pretend in school and I can't control it? Or do I just say nothing again?

rmb
rmb
Thank him for the good feedback.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Your teacher gave you a prime time example of how to change your anxiety to be your helper-stop, pause, breathe, and instead of saying 'sorry', repeat stop, pause, breathe until you are clear headed.

The fact that you do not do it with friends says your anxiety in school is affecting your ability to do your work.

And, I agree with rmb to thank you for the excellent feedback for your well-being.
mtd
mtd
Look, unless someone understands how anxiety affects people, their opinion is just that, their uneducated opinion. And as rmb said, thank him for the opinion. You are free to consider it or not, your choice, not his.
arfie
arfie
another vote for thanking him and possibly add on an assurance that you are working on it. if you are feeling witty, you could even add in an evil grin and another apology.
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