Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Last April, my best friend (who was the best man at my wedding and in March 2011 the godfather of my daughter) was arrested on child porn charges. Authorities found a lot more than that, though --- he had also acted on his impulses.
The bottom line is, he's in jail now for the next 30 years -- thank God.
As good as it is that he is being punished for what he did, it doesn't take away from the pain he caused not only to his direct victims but also to his family and friends.
I had known him for close to 30 years before last April. He was a confidant and friend I could trust with anything. The fact that he was doing these horrible things and keeping it all hidden under a supposedly normal life ... it just makes me ill thinking about it, and it has wrecked my ability to trust, in general.
I don't want to look at good people and think, "they're probably hiding something." I want to look at good people with admiration and respect. I don't want to see children playing and feel that they're in danger. I want to feel happy that they're having fun and enjoying childhood.
So yeah, coming up on the one-year anniversary of his arrest, it's actually all started to hit me on a anxiety, borderline-depression level. I'm actually even reluctant to talk to his family -- who are great, down-to-earth people -- because they appealed to us (friends) to keep in contact with him. And I just can't do that..
I know I need to talk to a counselor and get some sort of perspective on this, and I'm planning on doing so. But if anyone has any suggestions, ideas on how to deal with this on a more immediate basis, I'm all ears. Thanks :) -Andy
The bottom line is, he's in jail now for the next 30 years -- thank God.
As good as it is that he is being punished for what he did, it doesn't take away from the pain he caused not only to his direct victims but also to his family and friends.
I had known him for close to 30 years before last April. He was a confidant and friend I could trust with anything. The fact that he was doing these horrible things and keeping it all hidden under a supposedly normal life ... it just makes me ill thinking about it, and it has wrecked my ability to trust, in general.
I don't want to look at good people and think, "they're probably hiding something." I want to look at good people with admiration and respect. I don't want to see children playing and feel that they're in danger. I want to feel happy that they're having fun and enjoying childhood.
So yeah, coming up on the one-year anniversary of his arrest, it's actually all started to hit me on a anxiety, borderline-depression level. I'm actually even reluctant to talk to his family -- who are great, down-to-earth people -- because they appealed to us (friends) to keep in contact with him. And I just can't do that..
I know I need to talk to a counselor and get some sort of perspective on this, and I'm planning on doing so. But if anyone has any suggestions, ideas on how to deal with this on a more immediate basis, I'm all ears. Thanks :) -Andy
I wish I had some advice for you on how to deal with this on an immediate basis. I just wanted you to know that I read your post and want to wish you relief from your anxiety and depression.
I hope that you get to talk to a counselor about this very soon and talking about it will bring you relief.
Take care.
I just broke up with my boyfriend and he is actually a wonderful person, we (or quite possibly just me) kept messing it up. But my ex husband was a terrible person who became abusive. All of my anxiety triggers from my exhusband kept popping up on a good person (ex boyfriend) and it just was aweful.
I too felt I want to see the good in people and not be paranoid they are plotting against me. Holidays or anniversary dates are hard for me. Xmas was just a plain mess for me. I've too had to avoid certain people. Hope your nerves calms down. Sometimes I have to remind myself that anxiety will just go away because it just does.