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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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StrongerThanYesterday18
StrongerThanYesterday18

Okay ya'll....
This is literally been going on FOREVER, I am constantly worried that I'm doing something wrong, or not good enough, and constantly worry my spouse is going to leave me due to my flaws. He tells me all the time that he loves me, even in stress, and the other night i took it to the extent of asking him if he really wanted to be with me or if he was just waiting for a way out. His words were "I'm in love with you, just not our situation" (WTF does that mean? LOL I'm overthinking again!) I overthink and assume the worst all the time. Is this my anxiety? Or is it maybe something deeper? 
My sons behavior stresses my spouse out, so I take him to daycare when I'm at work. And then I go thru phases of worrying that he's going to leave me because of my sons behavior (spouse is PTSD, Anxiety, and Manic Bipolar diagnosed)
How to I keep myself stable to help try to stabilize him as well?

arfie
arfie
"I overthink and assume the worst all the time. Is this my anxiety? Or is it maybe something deeper?"

In my personal psycho baggage car, I overthink my way down many a proverbial rabbit hole. I believe mine is both anxiety AND something deeper. It's all connected.

Emotions are complex, especially when convoluted by mental illness. An individual can have more than one emotion at a time. Families make an even more complex weave. If there are 3 of you, you will have 3 sets of reactions to each and every event in your home.

How do I keep all that stable? One need at a time. . .
agse
agse
I'm sorry that you are struggling so much right now. Has this always been your pattern of thinking? Have you always felt that you were going to be abandoned or that you were not good enough? How long has it been going on? In my experience, these are thoughts that are often driven by something much deeper. I did not have a great life growing up and I have taken a lot of the same thought patterns in to my adulthood that I had as a child/teen. I'm getting better at discerning what are healthy thoughts and unhealthy thoughts though, but my guess is something much deeper is driving you as well! As to what your husband said about "I am in love with you, but not our situation." I think what he was saying is he does love you and wants to be with you, but the situation is stressing him out. The situation has no correlation in regards to how much he loves you. The situation is just hard. If he says he loves you, take him at his word and believe him. If both of you are struggling, it's so important that you have open communication and talk things out so there are no misunderstandings between the two of you. Are either of you going counseling, either as a couple or individually? If not, I would highly recommend it. A therapist can help give you tools to better communicate, navigate your feelings, and just help you evaluate your negative thought patterns. I know it has helped me tremendously. Wishing you the best!
carlyj1202
carlyj1202
Sweetie, someone has done a number on you. No, you are not over thinking as he is making it perfectly clear. And don't need to ask wtf does that mean??? I think you know exactly what that means.

And I am thinking that if you think about it you will know exactly where your anxiety comes from. And I am so sorry to say it...as it is true....your hubby is a really big jerk.

I do hope that he is open to the thought of seeking help from a therapist.
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