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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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October is almost here, and anxiety is already her

Ella1992
Ella1992

Hi , I am new to this site. I been suffering with anxiety my whole life, it was always manageable (compared to now)  until October of last year. My best friend/mother was burtally murdered by a man she met online. Everything he told her about himself was a lie even down to his name. I met him :( the whole family met him, and little did we know he was premeditating my moms death. The first time my family and I ever heard is actual real name was after he attacked my mother , killing her. He beat my mom with a hammer than stapped her 7 times in the chestand stomach. 


I can't even fathem that it's been a year without momma. My anxiety is out of control , I feel like im constantly trying to save someone who is already dead. My mind can't stop , so my breathing does and I feel like I am going to have a heart attack. I feel like I'm losing her , even though I already have. 


After losing someone , how do you get passed it with anxiety?

greyhounds92
greyhounds92
Regardless of if a person has anxiety or not when they lose someone you dont just get passed it.. We all grieve in our own way & in our own time.... Never let (not sure if it was ever said to u but im saying) anyone ever tell you to get over it..... Grieve cry as much as u need too..... I lost my mom 2 yrs and lost my dad 31 yrs ago.... Although in my case it was easier to deal with my moms passing because it was expected as for my dads passing it was all of a sudden plus when he passed i was only 10 yrs old..... I mean yes its still hard for me to remember my moms not here anymore because for 29 yrs it was her & I (im the only child) so with that said we were close.... All I can say to you is I hope u have some kind of support system in your life whether it is family close friends or even therapy...... Plz if you wish you can friend me on here or even send me a message... Hugs to u & well wishes....
Minidogs2
Minidogs2
So sorry for your loss. Please find a good therapist to help you deal with anxiety and grief. You will do much better and progress more quickly with help. Especially since she was murdered adds more trauma. Check with a doctor for possible medication also. wishing you all the best. therapy, medication and a support group have helped me. find a good grief support group also.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Sorry for the loss. The grief changes direction in many ways, and it is a part of your experience. Due to the level of trauma, length of trauma, professional therapy in either a support group or with counselor is a definite option. However, anxiety is natural, so if you've not been checked for the mutant gene that mimics anxiety symptoms, get checked for that. Part of the anxiety associated with trauma often reveals the jumbled memories connected through a series of events, and having a journal can help you sort through the information to find a balance that works for you. Best wishes.
livebrilliantly
livebrilliantly
My heart goes out to you! I couldn't imagine the trauma you are going through. Have you talked to your doctor about this? It would probably be best to speak with a doctor. Seeking therapy/counselor is probably a good idea as well. I will say a prayer for you.
mlr0853
mlr0853
Your anxiety is a normal process of grief, and wanting to change the past. Your mind and body are connected and both need to heal, a process that will take as long as it takes...no one knows what is in your head or heart. Some have suggested therapy...try it. There is a bereavement group here on DS that may also help.

You and your Mom will always be connected. You come from her body, you were one together. My Mom passed in 1974, I still miss her, but I "know she is watching over me" and I talk with her as well. If you can, try to sit still, gentle breathing, you may hear her advice to help you. I call those messages "God Breezes"
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