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Alright I'm sorry I couldn't come up with a subject properly for this. I like to keep the subject short but couldn't figure out how to do so and still have the attention to those I need answers and guidance from. I have a question and need your help finding out how to go about doing this.
I want to put out there that I have not done anything wrong or against the law. Yes I've come close and feel guilty for my thoughts and actions and almost actions but I have not committed any crimes or anything of that sort.
Now most of us who have therapist we talk to them about our daily lives we tell them what's bother us (hopefully you are, but your like me you have things you just can't even tell them). But how do you deal with the embarassing things in your life that you can't even begin to tell what you've done to just anyone. What if you have no one you can trust with this "secret" but what if you need to tell someone and just let it all out. Who or what do you turn to and can be truly unknown too?
I have these mistakes in my past I've made that haunt me at times like crazy, I just want to tell someone the whole thing but not have to be looked at like the monster I feel like I am for it. I know if I told the wrong person I'd be in a huge hole because of it and it's unneccessary because this is in my past and things are different now. I will regardless if it's true or not feel like I'm being punished if I tell the wrong person and feel they can judge me and know me.
I guess what I really feel like I want is someone I can tell these things too face to face but not ever see each other and hope that I can stop feeling guilty over my past.
I'm sorry this post is really unorganized. I can't really think theres a lot on my mind
I want to put out there that I have not done anything wrong or against the law. Yes I've come close and feel guilty for my thoughts and actions and almost actions but I have not committed any crimes or anything of that sort.
Now most of us who have therapist we talk to them about our daily lives we tell them what's bother us (hopefully you are, but your like me you have things you just can't even tell them). But how do you deal with the embarassing things in your life that you can't even begin to tell what you've done to just anyone. What if you have no one you can trust with this "secret" but what if you need to tell someone and just let it all out. Who or what do you turn to and can be truly unknown too?
I have these mistakes in my past I've made that haunt me at times like crazy, I just want to tell someone the whole thing but not have to be looked at like the monster I feel like I am for it. I know if I told the wrong person I'd be in a huge hole because of it and it's unneccessary because this is in my past and things are different now. I will regardless if it's true or not feel like I'm being punished if I tell the wrong person and feel they can judge me and know me.
I guess what I really feel like I want is someone I can tell these things too face to face but not ever see each other and hope that I can stop feeling guilty over my past.
I'm sorry this post is really unorganized. I can't really think theres a lot on my mind
So what you have to do is "Forgive Yourself"...Say to yourself, I Forgive you. Than after that I want you to get a piece of paper and the first thing you write is "I Forgive You"
Then you write down whatever you did and then put that paper in an ash tray or whatever and..... BURN IT.....
When you write things down, it seems just like telling someone without that someone being there, and burning it afterward releases you from that segment of your life.
And you will be surprised when those thoughts stop entering your mind, even if it's for an hour or a day.
Try it....Hey....you never know
You can do this.....Much Hugs and Love
I like the suggestion Sky gave you about writing it down and burning it. I do this and have had some success with it - depending on what it was about. Sometimes I really did need to talk about it and get the feelings out and no amount of writing and burning would help. This was mostly the anger I had towards my mother.
I know it is hard to trust people but I would hate to see you live your life with your secrets hurting you like they are hurting you now. My experience has been that until you get them out and process all the feelings that go along with them they will continue to haunt you.
I do hope you can trust your Dr. so you can free yourself from a past that you clearly have remorse about and want to send back to the past.
Take care
Also, if you happen to attend a church, a priest, pastor, or reverend can and will take confession. That is the safest place on earth to speak freely. Trust me. I know.
I would also guess that there are people you can tell who wouldn't feel it's as horrible as you are feeling it is. I don't know because I don't know what you're dealing with.
I just know that there are people suffering under the oppression of feeling they can't share who they are and what has happened to them or what they've done. They're gay or gave up a child or had an abortion or who had abusers make them do bad things.
They keep it a secret and let it define them. Even if you have to keep it a secret, please don't let it define you. It's something that happened. Doesn't mean it's who you are.
Alan246 - I've truly considered church in all honesty. Even before this issue I've thought a lot on religion. My only issue is I have a difficult time with religion, though I do think I'm past that and realize what happened and why and I can move on from it because that time in the past was unfair to me and not under my control. Though I find it hard to believe in a god because I side with evolution :P but I can never be fully sure I still have partial doubts. I really feel it would be nice to explore another view though and on the way help myself to be the kind of person I wish to be.
Reed31 - I have a feeling people would feel it's worse then it really is, but I really shouldn't let that stop me. I'll be honest too these secrets I feel like they do define me as a person. I feel like when I'm talking to someone what I've done is written all over my face and I can't hide it.