Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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perfectov
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I am currently a college student working on my bachelor's degree in social work. For one of my classes it is recommended for us to join an online support group. I have been dealing with anxiety for about the past four years and decided that maybe this is one of the best things I could do for myself. One of the biggest issues I have been dealing with is the feeling of being worthless seeing that only a few months ago, my best friend of 5 years and I had a huge falling out. After not speaking to her for months, I am now starting to see that maybe separating myself from her was a good idea. She had been very controlling and would get upset with me for silly reasons like having lunch with other friends and not going to dinner with her. I now know, that the friendship we had was borderline abusive and I am happy that I was able to remove myself from the situation before it got worse. Sometimes though, I feel as if maybe it was my fault and I was terrible friend that refused to work things out with her. We go to the same university and honestly, I am terrified that I may run into her seeing that one of the last time I spoke to her, she had confessed that her roommate had been taking photos of me and sending them to her. There are some times when I honestly feel a bit unsafe on campus because of this. 

jjhope
jjhope
Cutting off a relationship is very difficult and it is pretty normal to begin to second guess yourself as time goes by as to whether it was the right thing to do or not. From your comment it sounds like most of the time you are seeing the wisdom of your decision as you describe her as very possessive and over stepping boundaries that concern you enough now to feel a little unsafe on campus. It sounds like you are concerned that she may be stalking you. You might want to rehearse to yourself what your response will be when you do see her so you feel prepared and could have a mature conversation with her regarding your concerns if the opportunity presented itself. You may find that she has lost interest in reviving your former friendship and there may be nothing to be concerned about.
Is there any psychological support available to you on your campus that you can go to discuss this situation with and why you feel “worthless” when you seem to have become aware of the inappropriateness of this former friendship? Praise to you for having the strength and confidence in yourself to not try to revive an unhealthy friendship out of neediness.
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Toxic relationships affect our well-being long after we walk away from them, until we find a new level of self-awareness, confidence, and strength in our actions. As your anxiety comes on stronger with certain situations, allow it to be a strength when making choices for how you want to move forward. You're on the right path to healing and best wishes!
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