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Gamer4life
Gamer4life

So I have had a friend for two years and we stopped talking this past March. We talked al of the time and I would laways give her support for all of her problems but then I got used to having her help me with my problems and the friendship became stressful. We ended the friendship for something stupid I texted her back in the summer to see if we could talk again and I got no answer. Lately, I have been having dreams and losing sleep over the whole situation I do not know what to do. I know I cannot be friends with everyone, but I feel like the whole thing is my fault. I guess I am trying to decide if I should try to text her again or just face the relaity and keep moving on.

ScaredKat
ScaredKat
I think it depends on how much you want her back in your life. If you really want to be friends with her then I wouldn't give up on it. Try to explain yourself or something maybe? Apologize? ask if you can meet up at a coffee shop and just talk or something? I'd try one more time just to show you're serious about wanting to be friends again and that it wasn't just a passing thought. I wouldn't go further than that though cause they might get annoyed and lash out if it's pushed too hard
Community LeaderMid
Mid
First. Writing it out is important to help you notice the pattern. Second. Something stupid-you need to write this out (keep it private) and sort through the information for statement, opinion, feeling. This will help you process the changes in the friendship. Third, it is not your responsibility to change how she feels. It is up to you to heal your thoughts to move on. You are able to change your response which does change the situation. Write down specifically what you miss, and look for the key in how that changed to help you heal. Best wishes.
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