hey everyone,

here’s my story, I hope it helps someone out there. This is how I saved my relationship.

Even though my boyfriend told me every single day that he loves me, I still found myself wondering if he really means it. 

I know I'm often needy, always wanting his attention

Often, I catch myself anxiously scanning his tone or facial expression for “signs” he’s pulling away. When he spends time by himself, like playing video games, I think, “he’s tired of me.”

If he takes longer than ten minutes to text back, I start rehearsing worst-case scenarios in my head.

Or I start to feel jealous whenever he mentions lunch with female coworkers or gaming with friends. this usually results in some kind of fight.

I felt invisible, panicky, like I’m always “too much.” I was always seeking reassurance, we would then fight about how he thinks I don’t trust him.

I met up with a friend from home. She told me that I have relationship anxiety, or anxious attachment. She shared an app with me because it helped her. So I tried it

I tried it, everyday for 90 days, I worked on my relationship anxiety. We went from fighting every single day, arguing about something, to me feeling more confident and less anxious.

I just hope you can know that it will get better. If you want it to. I also realized that this was a life long issue for me. I repeated the same issues with my exes too, and it was what caused our breakup.

My best recommendations:

– Journal, to understand your thoughts – really helpful

– Try meditations (I like using it in the app)

– See a therapist (I tried one on and off, but stopped, mainly using the app now)

– Build a toolkit whenever you feel anxious