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My husband

Jersey_of_Oz
Jersey_of_Oz

My husband suffers from anxiety. It got worse when he had a really stressful job a few years back, and he srted on me mild anxiety meds. 


Due to the economy change, he was in and out of jobs for a year. When  he got a great job, our family moved to follow him. 


Now his ew job, which is with the state, is getting stressful and he has to learn how to deal with some really stupid politics at work - which he never had to deal with before because he is use to simple lablorer jobs. 


Long story short - his boss wants his job and has been applying un-needed pressure, and caused him to have an anxiety attack at work that he thought was a heart attack, and ended up in the emergency room. 


After this, he has been so embarrissed. He talks about being weak and not supporting his family well enough. I have been on anxiety meds for years, and have suffered from panic attacks since I was in 1st grade. I know it was not his fault. I understand axiety. I don't care what happened, and really I am glad he went to the hospital to make sure he wasn't having anything more serious. 


How do I validate his feelings and help him see that there is nothing weak about having anxiety? How do I help him see he did the right thing?


I love him. I want him to be happy. I know he feels pressure because we moved because of his new job. I don't want him to feel that preasure. I want him to feel our love. 


any thoughts?


briggy1
briggy1
I work for our local municipal government, been here 23 years, know all about the politics. You learn to live with it if you want to stay in the public sector.
Tired
Tired
Can he look for a job in another part of the government. My husband was in government and
couldn't stand the politics and boss after a lot of years. He found another job with the same
agency but better boss and less politics in this section. I don't know how you can reasure your
husband he isn't weak. Maybe another man can. A brother, cousin, friend can talk to him.
Jersey_of_Oz
Jersey_of_Oz
Thanks! these are both very helpful!
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