Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
My husband and I are moving out of state very soon to find a new place to stay. Because it's out of state, we will be going there and then search for a rental. During that time, we will be sleeping in the car with all our belongings. We've done this in the past so it's nothing new, but it's never comforting to know that we'd be sleeping in the car for a few weeks (we slept in the car for 2 months a few years back, it nearly broke me).
I'm feeling very nervous with this move and I can't shake off the feeling. I feel that we've been an inconvenience to his family who took us in for this transitional period. They paid for our food, rent free and all until we can sort things out. Financially, we're not doing too good so my plan is to find a job as soon as we get an apartment. With the money we have now, we can last at least 3 months so I really don't want to be in a situation asking for financial help.
Any kind of advice or word of comfort right now will very much be appreciated :(
PS: Another reason for me feeling nervous: Both our credits are not looking good even though we pay on time every month, and we are currently unemployed. My fear is that we will get turned down when we apply for a rental. Some will probably choose to do a month to month lease with us because of that, which is something I'm avoiding because they can charge us more at any time they wish. They've done that to us in the past and since our credit improved, we applied for a 1yr contract.
But my main concern now is that they will turn us down since we are unemployed and have nothing to prove.
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My day...today...misplaced my debit card...didn't realize it until I got to the register after shopping to a full cart. Used a different debit card and pulled apart everything looking for missing debit card before I left parking lot. Got home, dropped keys. So now I have a missing debit card, missing keys. A full cartload to unload and put away. I got everything put away.Dumped purse for a...
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family support, at least emotionally.
Another reason for us to leave this place is a more selfish reason, sadly. Yes, his family has been quite supportive of us, but the extended family are just too much for me, almost suffocating in a way. They love organizing get togethers which means we have to travel over an hour to go see them, and if you don't want to go, they'll be asking a thousand Why(s) until you feel cornered. In other words, you need a solid reason why you cannot join their parties. We've been here for quite some time now and we've not have time for ourselves or working on our side jobs. We've been given quite a hard time when we refused (which resulted in 'we need to talk' sessions with my in laws because Aunt So & So felt hurt we didn't go to her party). There are also a lot of family politics that we have to play, which I really suck at. Not to mention all the free babysitting times that we were obligated to give since we're 'more free' (but actually not).
I know it just sounds like a bunch of excuses but the situation that we're at, it feels like we will not grow unless we get away.
Keep us posted on the big challenge. Don't beat yourself up for the anxiety that comes with the new territory. It's a sign that you are paying attention.
Hope you find your place in the sun.
Just keep your head up high and look on the bright side. I understand that moving is stressful, but I can hardly imagine the stress you are going through. My advice is to remember to breathe. Just take one thing at a time and be open to new ideas. Accepting help is a sign that shows that you are strong and know that you need it. It's ok to need help, I always forget that or feel bad by accepting help. But I have slowly learned that it is ok to get help. I would apply to every single job that you can in the new area you are moving to.
Also You are strong and you are going to get through this. Its just a small phase in your life that you will overcome.