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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
My departed son's in-laws have sicced another lawyer on us. To my senses, the details of the suit are unimportant just now. The "Again" is the operative word in my senses. Please don't make us do yet another round of Legal Schmegal. Can we find another means of communication? The unfinished business of the departed husband and wife require that we know one another, but the string of lawsuits is beyond wearisome.
Girl howdy, my anticipation anxiety is roaring this morning!!!!!
This morning's read from "Meditations For People Who Worry" helped enough that I thought I'd reinforce the thought by sharing.
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Worry gives a small thing a big shadow. ~Swedish proverb
Small things rarely look small when we first encounter them. In fact, for worriers, any unexpected event looms terribly large when first encountered and then gets even larger the longer we dwell on it.
Ah, there's the clue! Can we possibly not dwell on it?
I know a woman who, over the years has come to serenity by learning not to dwell on things. When something seemingly awful takes her by surprise she goes into her natural state of shock and allows her to "finger it with her mind" for a while. Then she lets it "sit," unnoticed and doesn't focus on it for some time, until it has lost its "charge." When it has lost its "charge" for her, the solution has usually emerged, and it is rarely what she would have done under the first impact of the information.
The best solutions are "discovered," not produced.
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As I typed, I found myself arguing with the terms allot, but stepping back a bit, I believe I have been in that state of shock since I received the texted news. "Fingering it with my mind" comes compulsively easy for me. Choice or compulsion, that step is done. Can I let it sit until it loses its charge?
Testing, 1, 2, 3. . .
Open discussion. Thoughts, experience and opines welcome.
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
I agree with waiting and washing through the laundry.
Keeping it simple and pausing often reveals unexpected and unintended options that provide a 'reasonable' resolution.
Best wishes as you go through yet another skirmish due to lack of understanding and lack of sharing perspective for the children's well-being.
Some people forget that children become adults.
Now to turn off the anticipation anxiety. . . Listen to logic, would ya? ??
I swear my mind has a mind of its own.
Stepping small. praying big and letting God lead the dance.
a quote from someone in the sedona method---where he says, "can you stop worrying about this...just for now?" I found that freeing...because if you can do that---you won't waste all that time stressing about it....and a lot of times the problem just evaporates! or you figure it out. (brain just percolates behind the scenes and poops out a solution!)
I, too, find considerable freedom in taking it a minute at a time. If I catch myself going OCD --again-- that's okay. No need to beat myself up or call myself mean names. It's a new minute. I can try again. Shrug-a-lug, shrug-a-lug. . .