Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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lmecklen 08/30/2008

I've had panic and anxiety my whole life but I was over at my boyfriends the other day and I had a really really bad panic attack their. Now I'm afraid to go back to his house or even see him!! I'm so scared! Also, I want to know if anyone else gags when they get anxiety or am I just not normal???

XceteraX 08/30/2008

What you need to do is go back to your boyfriends as soon as you can. What you are doing is associating your panic attack with being at your boyfriend's home and being with your boyfriend.

This is very important to remember ----->
Panic can occur any place with anyone. The worse thing you can do is not go back. This is how agoraphobia starts. You eliminate the people/places you do not feel safe seeing or going to till eventually you run out of places to go. You must face this situation and keep going back no matter how uncomfortable until you are not afraid anymore. If you panic - so what. It is uncomfortable but you must ride it out.

Never let your panic prevent you from living!

Keep fighting.

Hugs!!!

Gagging is normal - it's anxiety. You're not "unnormal." Nobody experiences the exact same anxiety symptoms.

deleted_user 08/30/2008

What was going through your head just prior to your panic attack?

deleted_user 08/31/2008

I'm so sorry that you had such a scary experience! In time of extreme panic (though its been over 10 years) I was hardly able to brush my teeth in the morning because of the gagging. I also couldn't eat much, and raced straight to the bathroom multiple times since whatever I ate just raced right through me. I think that xceterax had a good point...keep going back! Systematic desensitization to frightening people, places or things is a major therapy tool. Maybe you start by going back and just sitting outside for a while. Then go back and enter the house for a short time, etc, until you work your way back there. Agoraphobia is an awful way to live. Are you taking any meds and other therapies to get this under control? Worked for me, but not in an instant...it all takes time and effort, and for me it ebbs and flows. Is your boyfriend educated about this disorder? Compassion and knowledge from others really helps...good luck!

XceteraX 08/31/2008

Awesome advice Oy!

Hugs!!!

deleted_user 08/31/2008

The worst thing you could do is avoid his house and him, this will keep the fear alive. people without anxiety disorders have panic attacks, do not let this get you down and avoiding as this will do nothing for you! Positive self talk and turning the reliving of the panic attack into something more of excitement. Please do not avoid!
Kristen

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