Glad the papers are filed.
You so deserve help. You work so hard and do so much for your kids
I wish you all the luck when it’s time for him to step up.

aside from my prison family birthrights, courthouses make me nervous for their finality. once those papers are filed, declaration official. el fin. finito. fertig. done is done.

here's hoping your declaration leads to healing.

Filing paperwork is NOT personal. It's business.

That's how I manage those feelings that creep in with these legal matters.

By managing the business, It provides what is needed for the business.

Here's hoping it works in a positive business method.

I just loathe bureaucracy. I get pretty internally anxious about all that stuff.

I just dislike I must even do this but I already have order to appear which they made it sound like that wouldn’t arrive till Monday. So now I researching how to have him served.

steadying support while you navigate the necessities.

easy does it. small steps, big faith and lots of prayer (by whatever name).

I found a process server and sent the documents and payment. So I should hear tomorrow. I trying to not get ahead of reactions but he will be livid and anticipate attempting to harass me. It doesn’t seem unless he threatens me I can file protection order. As I been through him harassing me before.

I trying to just breathe and not overthink. Sigh.

Breathing with you.

Protect yourself. If you need to block him on your phone then do it. Although anything you have in writing from him ranting and raving, helps your case. Be careful what you talk to him about or respond on email. Do not engage with him, you don't owe him to answer his phone calls if he is a high conflict person or is going to rant and rave.

The thing is he likes to scare you and bully you. Glad you are staying strong and doing what needs to be done.

My ex-husband was manipulative and self-absorbed. I asked him once why he was so cruel to me, did such awful things like cutting back the child support without a court order and when he had plenty of money, and he said "because I can." So know this man is likely doing the same. Because he can. Just show him he can't. That is what I did. We can't make them change or be nice but we can try to be as self-protective as possible with these users and abusers.

Here in the USA, most hospitals have a process to appeal to their bill paying department and get the fees reduced or eliminated. If one is low income enough, they forgive the whole debt. We usually have to do this appeal process immediately so it might be too late but perhaps this will help in the future. My son once got his whole debt forgiven by a hospital system (a non-profit hospital). He had a low income at that time. Best wishes on this, it is Monday today and hopefully he gets his service today.

Im so sorry that you are being harrassed, and im sorry that you feel like that you only have you and your child, but you have so much support here, and in faith. you are strong, and smart.

I am now low income but good to know about that.

I don’t think he thinks I will ever take him to court and he just a miserable human honestly. He only nice to me when he trying to get back together which is funny because then becomes an asshole.

He called me two mos back screaming that I forged his name and that why he got a medical bill for our daughter. We rarely talk but I will not be yelled at or be treated bad when I done so much for our kids. Luckily youngest is 17.

And she had many things happen and it isn’t right I pay it all. I won’t be talking to him tho at all. To my knowledge he hasn’t been served yet.