Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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knsample
knsample

Hi I'm a 21 year old female and I have never been in a relationship or even been on a date in my life. I'm in my last year of college and I still have never been asked out or exchanged numbers with someone I'm interested in.  I'm not the partying type and I am not interested in hookups at all. I'm really scared about what my dating life will be like after college. Am I screwed? No one wants to date someone like me. I have never had someone other than my parents tell me that I'm beautiful. It's hard to have self confidence when no one is there to make you feel good. Even the worst people I have ever met have managed to find someone.



i think about suicide a lot. I keep thinking that I will kill myself if I haven't found love by a certain age. I'm not a patient person so I don't know how much longer I can wait. What's the point of living without romance or finding love? I don't know what to do.

bridgie101
bridgie101
so what have you tried?

Have you tried online dating? Have you ever met anyone you fancied? What activities have you tried to get to know people? What social groups have you joined?

I think it's a little early to top yourself; 21 is not very old. I certainly wouldn't do it before you've got a job. You never know who you're going to meet when you start working.

I recommend going out with friends if you can, to nightclubs if you can. Get out there. Be seen. You won't meet a guy sitting at home. However you do meet them at the gym, the library, at sports clubs, music groups, art classes... the options are pretty broad.
kary.aa
kary.aa
Hey, I can be your friend if you like. No one deserves to be lonely •√•
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Stop. Pause. Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? When you first face yourself in the morning, do you give yourself a positive greeting? Life starts with us as individuals. We treat ourselves like we want to be treated by others. That means taking care of our feelings and working through those feelings to be open to the world. Yes, anxiety is natural. It's our weapon to use in the world to protect our well-being, so we have to make it work for us, and in order to do that, we have to first like our selves, love our selves, and work for our selves, every single day.
You have to go places by yourself, knowing your anxiety is also your strength. Keep a journal, practice going to a place by yourself just to observe what is happening. You're not trying to meet people, you are meeting yourself first.
Best wishes!
knsample
knsample
Self-esteem is something I have struggled with for years. I don't know how to get better. I have friends and family that care about me but I just don't like myself and I don't know why.
knsample
knsample
I am the oldest child in my family in terms of siblings and cousins. I don't have any role models in my life. Any women in my life are already married and having kids. So I feel very alone because no one can relate to how I'm feeling.
desty5649
desty5649
Your not screwed there's someone out there for everyone and just pray to God
4evertryingtoimprove
4evertryingtoimprove
I'm in the same boat. I'm just trying to work through my issues with a therapist. trying to help my self first, before I work on more intrapersonal ones. I feel like I'm making progress. Getting the issues out into the open. Maybe you should give one a shot too.
knsample
knsample
I have a hard time talking about these kinds of issues with people mostly because I'm too embarrassed. I haven't found a therapist who has worked for me and my psychiatrist is an older man so I definitely don't tell him about this stuff.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
You're talking here, so this is helping you to open up your feelings to words. Keep reaching out for encouragement and support. Sometimes, something shared clicks in the right way to work.
knsample
knsample
Another thing that has been hard on me is the fact that I don't like casual sex at all. It's fine if you're into it. I almost had it once and I ran out before I had taken my clothes off. As a college student, I am surrounded by the hookup culture. I realized that I want to wait until I find someone special. It doesn't have to be the one. No I'm not waiting for marriage and No I'm not religious at all. I have felt very isolated all throughout college.
KayBear
KayBear
I am sure you have great qualities and you are an educated person with a bright future. You have alot to offer but you have to put yourself out there. Start going to social events it does not necessary have to be college parties. You can register on Meetup (not a hookup site) and find groups of people that share an interest of yours.I know a few friend who have found love by meeting someone that shared their passion and also build a great professional network.

Try to be patient when it comes to finding the right person for you. I does take time but it will be worth it.

Wish you the very best!
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