Hi Lucille! You're not alone. And yes, you will be ok. You will be more than ok. Wanting validation and reassurance are all very human things to want.

Sadly...sometimes the one's we turn too...can't give us what we need...either they don't know how or they just don't understand.

Motivation, hope, and dreams are amazing things that can propel us forward. However with anxiety or depression these things feel easily snatched away.

That's where you need to have good habits, small goals, and discipline when you don't feel like you have anything else. Those things can get your thru the best or worst of times.

Sending you light and love! Said a prayer for you.

I feel the same as you. I hope you find something to help.

I hold validation as a fully natural and desirable human need. It is the yardstick by which we measure our place in the **civilized** world.

The place where I monitor that human need is in where and how I seek my validation. While I am in the grips of a psychotic episode, my loved ones all too often feel threatened when I seek validation from them. I gain far better results from seeking my validation within my therapy support network from the folks who have the inside scoop on what I am going through. In my calmer moments, I hope my loved ones never **need** to have the inside scoop only personal experience can build. I wouldn't wish that understanding on my worst enemy.

Validation from my loved ones is important, too, but I save fulfilling that need for calmer moments when I can bee more aware of their needs, as well.

So opineth The Arf.
If The Arf thunk ^it^, ^it^ must be so.

Ahem. . . Putting on my humble cap now. . .

I"m sure we've all that feeling. I know I have! Yes, we all want and sometimes need validation from loved ones. However, YOU can give yourself validation by telling yourself that you are okay, that you are loved, and that you are safe. I literally have to tell myself this while breathing slowly sometimes over and over. I imagine myself as a child (called inner child bonding), and then I talk to her. Sometimes it even makes me cry because I see a scared helpless child within myself, and then I become strong because I have to calm that scared child down. It is very helpful. Just tell yourself, "you are loved, you are safe, and you are okay."

I’m going to try that one. I told my mom yesterday that I learned from my therapist that anxiety is passed down from the mothers side and that if you grew up with a nervous and anxious mother you’re twice as likely to be anxious...
She didn’t believe it...
I ended up saying
“Yea, I think it’s more something I did and she agreed....
I didn’t even tell her about how if u grow up with an anxious mom ur twice as likely to have anxiety cuz I didn’t want her to feel bad...
I don’t know where to go from here...

Hi, Friend! Validation is absolutely not a bad thing. My emotions were invalidated most of my life. When I first started therapy, my therapist was the first person to ever tell me that my feelings were ok and valid. That was life changing. Feelings are not right or wrong, they just ARE! It's not how you feel which is the problem, it's how yo cope with and process your feelings.

You are most definitely not alone.