it's not just you, abena. i wander that wonder often, myself. god please grant me patience. NOW, GODDAMMIT! ! !

one of the places i drive myself crazier is with questions like, "which came first? the chicken or the egg?" am i irritable because of my anxiety or am i experiencing anxiety because of my impatience and irritability? the longer i ponder the conundrum, the crazier i drive myself.

i try to let it be enough that i dislike my irritable impatience enough to look for actions i can take to manage the condition. i most often find those actions in the "self-care" drawer of my psychotherapy tool box. taking care of my strictly personal needs goes a long way toward giving me more patience and serenity.

most often. . . i cover each of the exceptions in a separate thread.

Hmm. For me, I had to learn to separate the physical sensations of anxiety and put them in a timeline.

Then, I had to put the way I knew anxiety was affecting my ability to 'do thinking'.

Anxiety is natural, and it's a part of our wiring and energy. When you turn the key over, the wiring connects, and energy is dispersed. In 'doing thinking', I'm using energy and sometimes, the wiring gets crossed, and it comes out in an unexpected way.

That impatience...comes from 'thinking'. The desire to have the job done is 'doing thinking'.

In changing the way you look at the way your impatience displays itself, you can use it to 'help' better.

Sure does sound like it. From my own experience, anxiety pushes us mentally. Irritability was a major problem for me.

yes it's anxiety. My counselor tells me I never get any rest and it never ends because I'm always rushing to do the next thing.

Very much so.....Irritable for having to deal with this Anxiety..... always rushing everything is due to being Anxious

Yeah I guess I get irritated a lot lately. Mainly because I don’t know what’s wrong with me. It started in March. I had a slight tingling in my chest and arm and freaked out. Went to urgent care and to the emergency room. Did bloodwork and stress tests. Thankfully everything came back fine. Yet I’m still irritated that I don’t have a definitive answer to what’s going on with me. But for the past couple weeks I kept thinking I was going to have a heart attack. Finally my doctor said she thinks it’s anxiety and nerves, so she referred me to a psychiatrist. Hopefully they’ll get to the bottom of this. It takes a toll on ya though. All I can say is try to go at your own pace. Don’t worry about rushing or taking too long. As long as you finish what you where doing, take solace in that.

By what mental standard are we trying to live? I don't like the word "impatience." If I'm not harming anyone or breaking any laws, who cares if I race through everything from eating to shopping??? I'm over everyone telling me to slow down ...... "they" need to pick up the pace :)