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I thought I was surviving COVID OK--until today

carolk1955
carolk1955

Since I had all my upper teeth extracted, I keep a supply of Kozyshack tapioca pudding 6-packs in case the personal care home I live in serves something I don't like or can't chew. Until last Wednesday when another resident-staff member asked me if she could borrow some until Friday. I saw no harm in that and said yes. Meantime another resident as yet unidentified decided to steal some more of my pudding out of the refrigerator. Then Thursday was my day to have my laundry done. Until we lost 2 staff members, laundry would be done the same day and come back to us. No more. So Friday I asked M. if she had grocery shopped. No, she said, her friend had an emergency and she had to babysit. But she would definitely go Saturday. Saturday came and I asked her again. No, she said, her mother came for a surprise visit. But she would definitely go Sunday. I also asked her about my laundry and she promised to get that back to me Sunday. Sunday came. It was pouring down raining but she would definitely go Monday. My laundry didn't come back Sunday either. Now it is Monday, she is nowhere to be found and I have no food. And it was PB&J sandwiches for lunch which I don't care for. Last week I paid my $1,000 rent, which I could have waited to do, so I have no money to buy more food. Next SSD payment comes Thursday. Now I'm anxious, wondering what I'm going to eat and what I'm going to wear until Thursday. Unfortunately I can't just ask them for something else to eat. Either eat the one choice that's being served that meal or you're out of luck. I had some yogurt and apple slices for lunch, hardly enough to fill me up, especially since I don't eat breakfast. They don't post menus anymore so I have no idea what's for dinner. Being hungry and going without clean clothes is next to my worst nightmare and there's nothing I can do about it. This woman is the administrator's darling so forget about reporting her. She gets away with whatever she wants. For this I pay $1,000 a month. 

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Hmm. You can report this. To an outside agency.

That's difficult situation to manage and writing it out is a safe way to release those feelings.
musiclady595
musiclady595
My 63 year old cousin has lived in residential homes throughout the years. There are some clean amazing ones out there - with great food and care. Then there are others that aren't. I know I have had concerns about his items being secure. Do you have a counselor that you have contact with - if so, possibly there is a home that is a better fit and you would feel more comfortable at. Is there a way you can secure your room? I'm assuming you are sharing a refrigerator. Could you put a note on your food?
carolk1955
carolk1955
I do put my name on my food as well as the words "DO NOT STEAL". That hasn't stopped the stealing. Supposedly the home I'm in is one of the "clean, amazing ones". I shudder to think what the others are like. Frankly I don't need to be in this type of home--I don't have a physical disability. I do have some mental health issues--anxiety and depression--but I lived in my own apt for 10 years before moving here. Moving here was the brilliant idea of my social worker at the time--I wish I hadn't listened to her. No, my room can't be secured. Two years ago I had $50 stolen out of my wallet. Others had money and items stolen and the administrator never did anything about it. I just found out yesterday that the staff member who's been here the longest, about 8 years, is back on illegal drugs. This is the guy who gives me my evening meds, some of which are prescribed controlled substances. That makes me very nervous.
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