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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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I Feel Like Such A Loser!!

Erica71
Erica71
My anxiety has been really bad lately. I seem to worry about EVERTHING and I mean everything. My son asked me today when I picked him up from school if I could take him to the gym to workout. Any normal person, if they had time to do so, which I do, would have said "sure". I mean that's a healthy thing for a kid to want to do right? Well, because I'm such a wimp and it is out of my comfort zone and I'm afraid of panic attacks...I can't take him. It is the worst feeling in the world and I know that he doesn't understand it. All through the years I've gone through spells like this and could get through them with relative ease and disguise...now my kids are getting bigger and they are starting to see for themselves...all about me and my anxiety. Everytime I turn around one of them is wanting to go somewhere or do something and I feel like I can't do it. Used to, something like that could happen..and I'd have enough time in between to start working on some skills and then get em next time and feel normal. Now, they are hitting me so fast, left and right, wanting to go here and there..I just feel overwhelmed and I feel like a horrible mother. Any support please..I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi, do your kids know about your anxiety and how it makes you feel? Can you guys talk about it and you can help them understand you are not punishing them and that you understand these things are important to them but you are sometimes not able, physically, to take them. Perhaps you can have a plan where they could buddy up with a friend "sometimes". Have you also considered that it may be helpful if you try and take them even if you feel anxious for your own self-confidence. I feel that sometimes if I just give in I am never able to do that internal dialogue that settles me down but if I just push through and do something that i'm anxious about I feel more control and it helps me deal with the next attach. I think both approaches may help!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh, and you are not a loser, you just have anxiety! Let's put that into perspective.
Erica71
Erica71
Thanks for you input...I'm a crying mess right now...both are good options...and you're right when I push myself I always end up feeling better....but man it is so HARD sometimes...especially when your defenses are already down a bit. Also, they understand to a point...but my son was like , "mom, I don't understand why you don't just fight it."...it makes perfect sense..but it is just difficult at times. Thanks again =)
Community LeaderMid
Mid
You have the best support. You are a winner, not a loser.
You can do this. Just tell yourself you are doing this for your son. It's not your problem, it is an activity your son wants to do, go for it!
Anxiety will lessen when we embrace it into our natural balance. Movement will lessen the chemical "anxiety" and you will feel better much quicker. Keep the box of kleenex handy because the more you do, the more you will cry out the toxins until you get to your normal balance. I found that once I handled my tears as part of the anxiety, they eventually lessened, and even when I get the "I don't wanna" , I put the activity as yes it can be done.
Go for it!
You'll feel better, you really will!
Community LeaderMid
Mid
You have the best support. You are a winner, not a loser.
You can do this. Just tell yourself you are doing this for your son. It's not your problem, it is an activity your son wants to do, go for it!
Anxiety will lessen when we embrace it into our natural balance. Movement will lessen the chemical "anxiety" and you will feel better much quicker. Keep the box of kleenex handy because the more you do, the more you will cry out the toxins until you get to your normal balance. I found that once I handled my tears as part of the anxiety, they eventually lessened, and even when I get the "I don't wanna" , I put the activity as yes it can be done.
Go for it!
You'll feel better, you really will!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Just wanted to add I am in the very same boat as you! My teenager needs rides for him & hsi friends constantly, and when they are to places out of my comfort zone, i really have a hard time deciding whether to push myself or not. Sometimes I do, and i feel great that I did! Other times I cant seem to do it & i'm left feeling guilty & frustrated that I cant do "normal" things & be the kind of mom that i want to be. Hang in there, and explain it to him instead of tying to cover it up. :)
Erica71
Erica71
Sorry you go through this too Sporty...but selfishly glad I'm not alone. This is just not one of those days to push...I've been weepy all day and my husband just left for work..in a really bad mood..being rude to me and whatnot...sometimes when I'm feeling my worst...I don't know what happens..but oft times he'll say things to make it worse...didn't need that today...thanks for everyone's support.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe you should explain this to your kid. If he knew you could work out other ways he could work out, and maybe you could join him or work out at home too. it helps with anxiety. I mean, if you were at a healthy weight, felt good physically that could reduce your anxiety.
Erica71
Erica71
Thanks Githanos, another good idea. We have stuff here and I actually thought of setting up something for him...at least until I'm at a better place..thanks for your response.
mybeach
mybeach
I can really relate... I am a single mom and my daughter is only 10 so she doesn't really "know" what goes on for me. My biggest issues is she is starting to want to have friends over and I just can't figure out how to deal with that. We live in a two bedroom condo so it is not real big and pretty difficult to seperate. I had my first panic attack being at someones house when i was about 14 and never spent the night or had anyone over after that. Even to stay with relatives, etc is impossible for me... sorry I am beginning to ramble. I have pushed through on some other things... for me it's distraction, try to think of other things or focus on a specific time when you can picture being back in your comfort zone and know that the event is over. I constantly chant in my mind, "You are ok, you are doing this for your daughter, she is happy and at 7pm this will be over and you will have survived, etc"
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