Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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vickicrouch2
vickicrouch2
Back in 20011 my brother died and i found out my husband was having an affair. I thought I was dealing with it okay and then about 6 months later started having breathing problems and shaking, at one point I was screaming and begging my family to help me. I've never had this happen before the shaking and not being able to breath. But to me what is weird is that it does not feel like anxiety, it feels more like some thing is physically wrong with me. I don't know if any one understands this or not. I am 50 years old and have been told it could be menopause, but some how I don't believe its that either. This really feels more physical to me I guess what I am saying is I feel like some thing is very wrong. I am seeing a mental health care professional. I seen a new one last Thursday and all I did was cry. I do not feel like the same person. I have a post on menopause , I think just hoping to find some one that really can relate to what I am going though. I am not the same person I was. My whole life is ruined from what every this is. I am really confused most days trying to diagnose my self it's really stupid!!!
jewells1
jewells1
Panic attack can change your body reactions, heart racing, woozy feeling knee bucking, and stomach upset. Granted hormonal change can make them more pronounced, but it does sometimes feel like a heart attack.
jewells1
jewells1
P.S., I also think that the two events are tied in your mind, to each other. I would have thought that they were separate a year or two ago, but not so now. Yeah it even messes with my vision, especially when my blood pressure rises. But they do wind down again aft a bit. I will hold an ice cube in my mouth or cold water. Count backwards or melt an M&M in my mouth until the candy coating cracks. For me it doesn't work to take deep breaths and slowly release, but it does for some.
vickicrouch2
vickicrouch2
Hi jewells are you talking about the ice cube melting in the mouth for the breathing issue? And the reason I stated the two major events is because most people think that they are the reason i am having issues but I did not start having all these problems until about 6 months later. I will say that from the time i found out my husband was having an affair until I started having the problems I was on a daily basis finding texts on his phone and it was just so hard beyond any thing i could explain. I guess I am searching for any thing as to why I am having all the problems. Oh, and thank you so much for taking the time to respond to my post. I really appreciate it.
BonTemps
BonTemps
I can tell you that panic attacks can have physical characteristics that
are hard to believe could be caused by "only " a panic attack. A lot of
people honestly believe they are going to die when one hits. I have had
attacks so bad that I went to the ER and sat in the waiting room just to let it pass. Ive had enough that i now recognize them , so I dont actually ask for treatment because I know I would be there for a long
time [ being a heart attack survivor].
My sister went through incredible mood swings when she was going through menopause , so you may be fighting two things at once.
Gs73063
Gs73063
I am sorry for all your tragdity I know its hard I've had tradity hit mile more than one but this post year has been unbearable for me.. and I always go back to the first one my mom died when I was two and a half never got over it can deal with it at times not so good at others..just today I feel like I'm having a heart attack can't breath chest hurts boobs hurt ughh and under me left eye freezes for a bit scared the crap out of me thought maybe I should go to tthe er but didn't just wanted to come home and chill I hsve obgyn on monday to confirm what I found on this sits this past weekend.. I'm sure mine is all menapause sucks but I beleive this to be true.. so I came on with my new syptoms here and find I'm not alone thank you all for sharing peace ladies
jewells1
jewells1
Yes I am talking about the melting of ice, concentrating on the feel of it. Panic attacks can be driven like a motor . Fear it will gets worse, makes it worse. So taking or doing something that removes that extra boost helps come off it.

As to the grief and betrayal tie up, you can probably add abandonment and anger.
Grief changes as it hits you from the first cry to the realization that they are gone from your life. These seem to be mixing with that of the husband. You may be mad right now, but unable to verbalize or act on it.

I am just finding this crossed wires of a multitude of feelings, following my husbands death. Knowing that all the things he covered for me, no longer have a safety cushion or button, that he was.

I have fore the most part kept my journals open, because it helps me to be open here. I my world outside of DS, there are so many barriers to releasing or defining these feelings. ARGH, sorry so long.
jewells1
jewells1
A husband is a choice of life...one you counted on, it was taken away. maybe not like the death of my husband but a death of the security of being the other half of the couple. The searching through texts and not finding an opening to correct the situation can give you a hopeless and guilty aspect"Ididn't love him enough, I wasn't enough" type thoughts....It shakes your core. Panic attack.
vickicrouch2
vickicrouch2
To jewells, Thank you for your insight into my many issues. I tried to send you a big hug, but for some reason my hug link is not working. I will try the ice cube maybe tomorrow, I have doctors app and I have a lot of anxiety when going to these appointments. I hope you are having a good evening and really wishing you the best!!!
HERES2U
HERES2U
Sorry that you are going through this. If you can, pick up a copy of Hope And Help For Your Nerves by Claire Weekes. It explains everything in a nutshell. It's about $8 and did more for me than any doctor or hospital ever did. It explains anxiety that is caused by problems and emotions. It really lays out the whole anxiety thing and give ways to deal with it. I can honestly say that if you read and practice her methods you can reduce or eliminate the excess anxiety in your life. My biggest error was trying to eliminate anxiety when in fact it's part of the human emotion. We will always have it. It's just a matter of trying to keep it at a baseline level- which is considered our normal levels. On a final note though it seems that a lot of the anxiety we feel are our reactions to things and events going on around us and our perception. If we can change those thoughts and perceptions then our brains wouldn't send our bodies those negative feelings.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can relate vicki2. I didn't believe anxiety could cause so many physical symptoms either. I always thought anxiety was just an emotional feeling. A few years back, I had a severe vertigo attack. It felt like I was in the Twilight Zone. I could have sworn my soul was trying to leave my body. The whole occurrence left me terrified and traumatized. I now have anxiety. Just a small scratch on my finger terrifies me. The whole thing is so bizarre. I just recently started seeing a therapist also. I'm taking Zoloft hoping to find some relief. I wish you well and hope you find the help you need also. P.S. And don't feel bad about trying to diagnose yourself. I thought I had Labyrinthitis, MS, Migraines, you name it! Smile.
deleted_user
deleted_user
OMG you just told my story for the last 3 months. Had a bout with vertigo that scared the literal crap of out of (had one many years ago too)...just like you I thought I had MS, brain tumor, meinieres, you name it. It sent me into such a state of anxiety and depression that it only made my symptoms worse. Had all sorts of testing and all normal, so we just chalked it up to allergies and anxiety. Although the dizziness is gone I am now left with debilitating anxiety, panic attack and depression. I am seeing a therapist weekly and started trazadone (sleep aid & antidepressant) plus I take 0.5 ativan, which at this point isn't enough. I have good days but lots of bad ones too. I feel for you, and each and every one of you going through this turmoil called anxiety!! Hang in all!!
vickicrouch2
vickicrouch2
To flowers911 I know we all are suffering I really wish that was not the case. I am comforted by the fact that people are taking the time to post and relate there stories here on DS. Before I found the site I felt so alone! now, not so much. I feel bad any body else has to go through this stuff. I'm on Xanax times two a day 0.25 in the am and one at night its helping some what but still not a normal life. I see my therapist tomorrow and hoping one day to understand this and my self a little better. Thanks for posting your story it helps me feel a little less scared about it all!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi... I don't have any real words of wisdom like all the other posts on here, but just wanted to let you know that I can relate to your suffering, and that you are soooo not alone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Stress, worry, I feel you and I'm dealing with the same issues, meds, have only made me worse. Good luck
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's horrible, I am not coping as I had hoped, taking care of aging mother who is so mean in spirit is doing me in, I feel sick, in pain, angry, loss of interest, and it's bad because my 14 year old see this... what can I do?