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I feel horrible

bean.flower
bean.flower

I finally worked up the courage to go out with my dad and his new family, we went to zoo, it was alot of fun for my little sisters and my dad's girlfriend was very nice. Her father was there as well, I've been around my dad's girlfriend and my little half sisters alot more lately and I'm more comforatable around them but I've not really been around her father, he's an older man and he seems very nice but I didn't realize that I had offended him today. The grandfather of my little sisters bought lunch today at the zoo and it was very expensive, now I not having any money and coming for a lower class house hold felt rather uncomfortable with him buying me a eight dollar burger, so I just got a small order of cheese fries, I honestly wasn't really hungry either, I don't know if that was due to my anxiety or not but I got the fries. He asked me if that was all I wanted, I of course said yes and thank you but I wasnt very hungry. That apprently offended him. I didn't realize it did until my dad called me a little bit ago which of course after I hung up from him caused a minor panic attack and a sinking feeling that I upset a man I barely knew with something I didnt see as an issue. alot of my anxiety is based on pleasing people, I knowing now that I let me gaurd down and did the one thing I always avoid doing makes me feel like I never want to go out again. 

cachetteen1
cachetteen1
well, u have to go out again, if for nothing more to prove to yourself that u should. The tricky thing about anxiety is, other ppl can sense the unease we have and THAT is actually what they find offensive, not the fact that u didn't order a burger, u may have been unaware that u uncomfortably said no, no thank u, whatever- maybe had a sad face- idk- I wasn't there. I do know this, one day I was suffering from a migraine walking through the super market, and this little girl like 2yrs old looked up at me and gave me the dirtiest look- I was in shock, thinking how could a 2 yr old give such a look- just then I walked by my reflection and I had that expression on my face and had no idea! point is, many times, the world is reflecting back to us. And also $8 for a burger may be a bit high for both u & me, but, maybe he has the money and wanted to do something for u/ and have u included in the meal. And lastly, all of us suffering from anxiety- are battling against ourselves every single day, the very last thing we need is to throw fuel on the fire with other ppls misperceptions of us, u did nothing wrong, the world will not end because u didn't eat a burger. When I have anxiety I am not hungry either, its very common, so cut yourself some well needed slack, ok? all the best 2u :)
AMC_306
AMC_306
Don't feel bad about burgergate for one more second. Situations like these are so common they have a name. They're called misunderstandings.

It was not your intention to offend this man. If you still feel bad about possibly hurting his feelings, why not send him/the family a thank-you card. It sounds like you had an otherwise pleasant time. He can either be placaited by this gesture or not, but at least you know you tried to work things out.

People can get offended if they feel like they are offering a gift and the person they want to accept this gift won't take it, but it's not about the actual burger.

Don't let a misunderstanding over a hamburger ruin your progress.
Brooks
Brooks
I don't think you should feel horrible, although as a sufferer of anxiety and panic attacks I know that I tend to make mountains out of mole hills. If you haven't already, maybe you should talk to your mom and dad and explain your anxiety. Sometimes just sharing it helps.

Also, I believe spending a day with your father's new family would be difficult for anybody, anxious or not.