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I don't like people

Mars1212
Mars1212

I don't, and no flips given. It's not to say that I dislike all people, but the people that I like are fewer.


I have no problem throwing down.


Is this a "good" thing? It's not supposed to be socially acceptable, but I think I have always been this way.  I put on a front for the sake of fitting in, to keep a job, etc.  Down deep there are some people I have no respect for. On the other hand, there are other people that I reallly admire.


We are forced to put on a front to stay out of trouble and to keep our nose clean so to speak.


I'm losing my tolerance these days, though. I have felt right on edge in public since this whole pandemic started.


Today I was trying to just pick up a few things at the drugstore and was standing there not wearing a mask. Don't have to. No policy. Been wearing one for two years and IM DONE.  Been vaccinated three times. What else now?!?  Unless I'm in a hospital or some other thing I'm not doing it. Some dude behind me starts harassing me and telling me people need to start wearing masks.  I told him I'm not interested and to leave me alone.  He kept at it so I started screaming at him as loud as I could to shut up. I walked away. 


Bluebird20
Bluebird20
It can be frustrating with this pandemic. Try to hang in there.
arfie
arfie
i hear you mars. my dislike of people is so intense that my self-loathing rules on the days i have to acknowledge my own humanity.

i'd still rather be a chicken than a people, especially here in coronaville. to the best of my knowledge, THEY still haven't gotten around to masking chickens yet. cluck cluck. . . increasing social distance now. . .
rmb
rmb
I think people are reflective of the times. I like most people just fine. What I don’t like is the current culture.
anona123
anona123
Hey Mars. I've struggled with this. Generally speaking I don't like people either. The person saying to mask up, I can see how you lost it.
I"m not sure if we're completely similar but I've dealt with a lot of anger issues. I too have yelled at many. Unfortunately I drove a lot of people close to me away. That was a mistake, a huge mistake.
I'm trying now to find a better balance of standing up for myself, but also being more tolerant with others. Trying to find the good in what they do. I was too judgmental.
rmb - you mention not liking the current culture. Not completely sure what you mean by that but I'm also struggling with current culture of the youth. Maybe I'm just getting old but many seem disrespectful.
rmb
rmb
I feel like just generally everyone is up in arms about every single thing, in the media, including social media. I wish people could simmer down for five seconds because honestly whatever is up people’s butts just doesn’t matter that much in the big picture. At least from my perspective.

To me youth today are no different today than youth in my day. The times are just different. Most youth are just… youth: brains not fully developed, rebellious, think they know everything, yadda, yadda, yadda. But I see how some adults act and think, well how can we expect anything else from their kids?
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
I try to avoid people. But there are people who want to be your friend trying to help you too.
mtd
mtd
I don’t think people know who they are anymore because of all the “ culture” and “wokeness.” I used to take people at face value but not anymore. I will think for myself and dare to defy the current state of culture and wokeness by hanging on to the values that I know and believe in. I think much of this is just fads. Something new will come along next week. It always does. Keep the faith, be yourself. .
rmb
rmb
I actually try to take people as they are, good, bad, and everything in between. No one is one single thing and everyone has crap going on in their lives that perhaps I can’t really know or understand. I don’t know. I guess we can’t all be perfect; sometimes we aren’t at our best or we make mistakes.

My feeling is when we dislike people we are essentially disliking ourselves because we are all messy sometimes, challenging, irrational. It’s the human condition, whether we want to believe that or not. But that’s just my
take on things. I don’t like people who mistreat or abuse animals, children or the elderly or other similarly situated vulnerable beings. Beyond that, on an even playing field. I could care less what people do or say. But again that’s just my perspective. I get others may see people differently.
MelT2020
MelT2020
I'm with you Mars!
carlyj1202
carlyj1202
And how is working for you? Not liking people? Of course they all get on our last nerve but we do have to have people in our life. And you should.
Mars1212
Mars1212
It's not all people I dislike, I have certain types of people and circles I like very much. It's the "bully culture" that I don't like, that seems to be running through grown adults lately-that is my problem. The Karens, the people that have to be duct taped down on planes, all this crap that just didn't seem to exist 20 years ago. It's only "working" insomuch as I can keep these abusers and controllers at bay-beyond that I do prefer to stay home. In 2020 there was rioting in my area and it didn't pay to go out. I don't like fearing going out and I will defend myself if need be. Fortunately there are better groups of people that I DO like, but I have to specifically search for them, they for sure are not the general public!
arfie
arfie
i am almost envious that there are people and circles you like very much. almost. fact is, i prefer being alone so much that even the people i love are entirely to peopley for me to like them completely, especially when they are around other people.

then we get to the marshal law mandated masking and social distancing of coronaville. . . hope for humanity is harder than ever to come by.

personally, i'm finding my hope in taking what i like and leaving the rest. small steps, big faith and lots of prayer. i also mind my pronouns. if i can't attach strictly personal names and faces to THEM, i assume i'm dancing with assumptions again. i can't know what lives behind the mask until the wearer takes the mask off. does it really matter if the mask is metaphorical or literal? i still can't wear a literal mask but my metaphorical masking hides allot more than any literal mask ever could.
rmb
rmb
Mars1212, I get what you are saying. We had rioting in my city and neighboring city in 2020 and it definitely made me more on guard for a bit. Thankfully that has waned.

It’s interesting to me. I was watching a documentary recently and it showed a lot of footage from the late 60s and early 70s, like the Kent State massacre, war protests, civil unrest, etc. I had a moment of realizing crazy times and crappy people have just always been, like every decade or generation contends with bad times and bad apples. Maybe the difference is now everything is filmed and accessible on phones, devices, TVs. So it feels like a constant assault of people behaving badly. We spend so much time watching these things play out I swear it alters who we are.

Maybe the best we can do is to not categorize people, take each one at face value based on their own merits so we don’t feel like one person represents an entire group.

Good conversation by the way!
anona123
anona123
It's hard to disagree with your last post Mars - I don't like staying in either but does feel the only way to control the issues. And I do seek out communities where I feel comfortable. I worry over what kind of world we're approaching though. There are so many now that seem so vile.
loren1974
loren1974
There seems to be a growing breed of people who feel its their right to make decisions for you. There is always a rational for this too. Most often its some "greater good" ideal. In my humble opinion this is a very dangerous road we are going down, because this logic can be twisted to fit just about any situation. I am sure of one thing though, there will be a turning point. The pendulum always swings back. You can only push people so far!
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