Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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searchingforthelight 02/13/2018

I don't get myself I really don't. For almost a year I would always be complaining to myself and my family about how I always feel alone because I'm the only child in the house growing up since my brother is 11 years older than me so we've never been close. And at school I have great friends and super social and involved but I just feel so frustrated and sad on the inside knowing I can't "own" any of them at the end of the day and call them "mine" because they already have their own close siblings at home or other relatives and stuff. And I need constant connection/attachment to people otherwise I start getting into this really weird depressive state like even the little things such as going home after school I just start looking around thinking about how lonely I am compared to everyone else and I don't know what direction to go to and if I can't figure out my life here in high school then how am I going to constantly belong in university and post-university life??

This sounds so weird but I always have these imaginary siblings like wishing I had a twin or two twins always walking by me each moment of the day and how much happier and alive I would be if they were actually real. Ugh I just can't do it every single day of anger and fear of loneliness and shit

kristina14 02/13/2018

I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this. I understand that feeling of isolation. I’m sorry that I don’t have any advice to give you, but know you are not alone.

Shellbelle 02/13/2018

My brother and I are quite a few years apart in age. He was always the good student and I wasn't. School didn't come as easy for me. Then when I got older my brother didn't respect what I went to school for. Once I got divorced I went back to school I went for nursing. He finally respected me. I went through some tough times but once I became closer to God my life changed. I lost the lonely feeling and feeling like I was never enough. Try to find some quite time to talk to him. It amazing how it can help

Alo 02/14/2018

I understand everything your going through

fauxartist 02/14/2018

I understand that hole in the middle feeling, I remember it very well when I was your age, I never thought it would go away. So I started doing things at home like art work, drawing, writing, and also joined some after school groups. I think keeping busy may help a bit with all that.

Momster18 02/14/2018

My situation is very different, but feels similar. My husband died 18 months ago. I hate living alone. I have a lot of family and friends who love and support me, but at the end of the day, they all go home to their spouses. It's never an easy feeling when you fell lonely. I hope you can find a way to feel closer to your parents. They may offer a huge support for how you're feeling. Hang in there.

Ann93 02/14/2018

Sorry to hear that you are feeling lonely. I have two daughters who are almost 10 years apart. They each have their own way of coping with being alone in the house. One of them got very involved in sports and made a lot of friends through her teams and didn't have that much extra time to feel alone. The other one is involved in dance and spends a lot of time talking to her friends on the phone while she is at home. I always found that my kids were the closest with those who had brothers or siblings that were far apart in age from them. Those friends were also looking for a closer friendship. Some siblings are close in age but don't get along at all and are always fighting with each other. It is good to find a hobby or activity to keep you busy and give you a sense of accomplishment., Have you considered volunteering? That is a great way to meet new people.. Hope you can find an activity to keep you busy and make some closer friends at the same time.

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