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I can't deal with this

dragonlover
dragonlover

Sometimes I feel like I am losing my grip on my sanity in all this COVID mess.  My moods alternate between anger and depression, but mostly I'm angry all the time.  I hate the feeling that my home has become my prison.  I hate that I can't go OUT and do the things I want to do.  I miss going to the gym, going to the thrift stores and garage sales, the public library, and the the other things I enjoy--all of which are done outside the house.   It isn't that there isn't plenty to do at home but all of it is work, and I'm sick of doing nothing but work.  No fun, nothing to do that I actually enjoy or want to do.  I also have a remitting/relapsing condition for which stress is a major trigger so I am dealing with that as well.  My husband and I have been at each other's throats even though we normally get along very well.  He isn't supportive of my feelings.  I am either not sleeping or sleeping too much--and having nightmares when I do sleep.  I am having a problem eating because my stomach is in knots.  I have lost weight from an already-thin body.  When I go out to get food, I feel like I am risking my life to do it.


I am sick and tired of people spewing useless advice and platitudes at me if I dare express my feelings.


"Stay busy"  I'm plenty busy but none of it is anything I enjoy or want to do.


"Go for a walk"  I don't enjoy walking and doing something I don't enjoy isn't going to make me feel better. 


"Don't think about it" I'm avoiding the news as much as possible but this situation is all around all of us.  How can I not think about it?  Can't ignore the proverbial elephant in the room.


"You could be a lot worse off" or alternately, "others are worse off than you"  True, but that doesn't improve MY situation or make it better.


"Journal"  No.  Just no.  


I could go on and on.  If I offer any advice or sugesstions, I phrase it in the first person "this is helpful to me" or "perhaps you could try..." rather than you SHOULD do this or that.  I even had someone tell me to look at the "positives" of being imprisoned in my home.  THERE ARE NO POSITIVES!  Same person tried to tell to me I can "choose" how I feel. Ugh.  People's feelings are what they are, and there is no "right" or "wrong" way to feel.


All I really want is for my feelings to be listened to and acknowleged without anyone trying to "fix" them, because they are what they and can't be "fixed".


AdelynRene
AdelynRene
I hear you. Sending you gentle hugs.
arfie
arfie
I feel you on the advice-giving. Most of it is copy and paste wisdom, at best. Strictly personal experience is much easier for me to respect, whether it resonates with my case or knot.

Speaking of which, I have zero experience with the masked madness sweeping the globe. The microbe still doesn't scare me. Those masked phantoms scare the unholies out of me and traumatize my three orphans when I take them off the farm. Figuring ^it^ out with you.

Healing hopes for all. No exceptions.
Trudy1021
Trudy1021
I understand sometimes you just need to he HEARD without rebutle because sometimes even if the rebutle can come from a caring place it makes it seem like you feelings are nothing and that pisses you off. I have been on a news fast for two wks and I only look for positive covid updates
JShovel
JShovel
I am so sorry you're going through this. When your're in it, Words just don't help. I've been bugging the heck out of my psychiatrist looking for help on bad days. I have been demanding quiet hugs from my wife and wearing headphones around my daughters. Still each day is hard. I have a calendar on my fridge that I use to track the days. It doesn't help much during the day, but it does feel good to cross out the day when its over, just something to tell me it's one step closer to done. Nothing will make this easy, but every little bit helps.
dragonlover
dragonlover
Thank you to those who listened to me and who acknowledged and validated my feelings, without giving me unasked-for and unwanted advice. It's not like I expect anyone to come up with a solution, because there is no solution.

Peace and good health to everyone.
mystic8
mystic8
I agree with you! I feel the same way. It feels like a person is on house arrest. All you hear is all scary stuff on the news. Now they say wear a mask before they said mask don’t work. Is it 6 ft apart or maybe we should do 12. Cause are they really telling us the whole truth. Watching TV shows to get our mind off of things then the commercials come on and it is about the virus. Racing thoughts at night. Worried about bringing items in the house like groceries the mail etc. Missing having people come over. Will it ever really go away and things will be ok. It is always going to be out there unless we have a vaccine.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
You vented and were heard.

I have this to share. In being kind to myself and keeping my well-being first, I choose my words and actions to help me, no matter what the work is.
caring2018
caring2018
I agree sometimes we just need to vent and be listened to. I do hope you find ways to deal with being at home. I am not a homebody either. I need to be social. I am enjoying using social media platforms to video chat. We have actually been doing happy hours and it has been fun. Facebook Messenger had some great effects you can do with video chats. I had so much fun the other day it brought tears to my eyes and I almost forgot about what is going on around the world. I pray you are able to find something or things too that can bring you that laughter. They say laughter is the best medicine and for me I found that to be true. I hope you will continue reaching out and venting that helps too. Hugs to you.
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