Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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How do you deal with the constant anxiety?

codymama
codymama
I have anxiety and O.C.D. My O.C.D. thoughts center around hurting people mainly hitting them with my car. There is definitely a pattern . I first get a lot of stress in my life and then leads to anxiety and that leads ot having O.C.D problems. I am not currently driving because I can't handle anymore new thoughts. I can remember episodes at least 20 yrs ago where I thought I hit someone. I am on meds and seeing a therapist. When I lay down to read a book or watch T.V.during the day my chest starts hurting and I start to feel more anxious. I think I have solved one of the problems. I came from a family that everything had to be super clean and my mom made sure everything was put away. I have severed the ties with my parents because my mom was and continued into my adulthood and married life to be emotionally abusive always being very critical and laying the guilt trip on me. I think I am struggling with trying to find the happy medium where I can be happy. Will I ever find happiness? I am 50 yrs old. I do not know what I want to do with my life. Everybody tells me to keep busy all day and stop focusing on the anxiety and O.C.D. It is very hard to do this all day and it is very tiring. Does anyone else feel this way? Any ideas?
Becky
Julia-Lee
Julia-Lee
Codymama I totally understand the anxiety all day long. It is hard to keep your mine off of it. So try this this is what I do. I try to read watch tv or do something for 5 to 10 minutes Then try something else. when I can do something for 5 to 10 minutes I add 5 minutes and so on. It can take days or even weeks to get to a hour but its worth a try. If you have a dog walk it. They say exercise helps. Good luck I hope I helped Keep up the fight
deleted_user
deleted_user
You sound like you had a similar childhood to mine. I feel the pressure of being perfect ALL THE TIME, I always have. I was told to get straight A's because I was smart enough too, anything less was unacceptable. And for punishment? Silent treament and guilt trips.
I vowed to never treat my children that way if I had any.
I am also trying to get back to the "old" me. My husband asked me where I went and why I don't like fun anymore. I don't have an answer.
I don't feel as if I can sever all ties with my family, but I have made an effort to spend as little time with them that I can and make sure it is on my terms, not theirs.
My parents have hard time treating me like an adult. It's tough.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your story sounds so similar to mine. I have not found the courage yet to sever ties with my parents even though I believe they make me feel worse. I commend you for having the courage to take the right step in making yourself better. I wish I could. I have constant anxiety and OCD all day long, I watch TV or go on the computer and try to ride it out and tell myself that it's nothing serious, just my pesky anxiety. It works some days!
Julia-Lee
Julia-Lee
I have had a BAD childhood too. I have tried to cut ties with the parents but it always comes down to I want a mom and a father that loves me for me. I know that will never happen but I still cant get past it. I have three great kids and the best revenge is that when I'm ok Im a good mother and love my kids and love them for them. sbrcware I hope you can get the old you back. Just hang in there. My man is tired of going through this with me but he is trying to help. I hope yours is doing the same.