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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I've been in a relationship for almost 2.5 years now and my fears around someone threatening my relationship have not gone away. I've had abandonment issues since my parents' divorce and the way my partner and I began our relationship wasn't perfect. She had just left a 4 year relationship and was engaged to the person. I don't consider every outsider a threat, but when I do feel threatened by someone, it's as though I turn into someone I don't recognize. I don't want to lose my relationship and obviously need to change. Does anyone have some advice for me?
taylexie85
Do you trust her?
manda4u75
To me it sounds like you have a trust issue. It may be time to step back and look at whether you trust her or not. If there is even a hesitation maybe you both need couple therapy. I'm not sure what your standards/musts haves in a partner is and it's really none of my business. However, I am willing to share one of mine is if someone is willing to leave someone they are with to be with me I automatically know right then things won't work. I politely go in the other direction and don't look back. Maybe this isn't the direction you were going with what you typed, but that is what I got from reading it. It's not only not fair to yourself for having the feelings you do, but also not fair to her. It's definitely not healthy and I hope you get answers soon.
abowie0627
Thank you for the replies. I've always questioned if I have trusted her fully, and I don't think I do. I really want to but I'm just not sure I know how. I think our beginning had a bigger impact on me than I thought.
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