Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I am going to be going to bed soon and this is one thing that is really hard for me. I just broke up with my boyfriend that I've been with for 3 years and am so used to sleeping with him that going to bed alone is really horrible for me. I always start getting anxious about it at around 8 and go to bed at 10:30 to 11. I feel desperate for someone. I will start texting Chris (my ex) and begging him to come over. I offer to go get him or buy him dinner or something. I know He's exploiting my feelings so he can get me to do stuff like this but I can't help it. I just get so desperate and when he tells me no I feel so unloved and uncared for that I start crying and can't stop. Then the later it gets the more worked up I get because I have to be up early for work, and if I don't get any sleep then I'll be tired, then I wont be my best at work and then everyone will think I'm lazy and don't do anything. I feel scared because I'm the only one awake, everyone I know is in bed and I'm the only one that can't go to sleep and I can't text or talk to anyone to help me because they're all in bed. I know there are lots and lots of people who are still awake but no one I can talk to no one I know. I get a very small comfort from the fact that I can hear my upstairs neighbor in my apartment walking around but even that is a small comfort that only works if I'm in a good place. I've never lived alone before so I feel very lonely. And I feel just horrible not having a boyfriend. I know I don't need to have a boyfriend to be happy but that's the way it feels right now. I was home schooled almost my whole life and since I was 13 I've desperately wanted a boyfriend and when I finally got one it was great! I haven't been single since I was 18. I am 22. I just find it very hard. Anyways, sorry this was so long it just all sort of came out... Well I don't know... I guess I'll try to go to bed now... :,(
It is hard after you break up with someone because too much is familiar. The same bed, same sheets, same paint, beds in the same place, etc.
And if you are in the same routine, you're likely going to really miss your boyfriend even more.
However, if you can change things around - move the bed, new sheets, different pillows, cute and silly things around that make you smile as you fall asleep and wake up.
Some people like music on or a tv show or something that helps them feel less lonely.
Adopting some new, calming techniques can be great too. Soaking in a tub or meditating, reading an uplifting book, etc.
If you're able to get a new bed of a different size and paint that may be something too.
Pets are great too - if you have room in your life for them. They will snuggle up in bed with you and keep you company. If you don't have room for pets, a big stuffed animal or pillows can even help.
Good luck to you.