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Feeling Hurt - And I shouldnt

ruthgrps
ruthgrps

My best friend has just phoned to say that their daughter has just given birth to a son, I find I am upset and jeaulous, my daughter I only have one child after a lot of early miscarriages, I know I wont have a grandchild as my daughter has had a heart transplant june 2008,


she isnt maternal at all, and if she did get pregnant, which would be hard she has never had a boyfriend and is 24 years old, either she or the baby or both would die in child birth.  Its going to be hard to be pleased when we see the baby and also with the new grandchild and parents.

lifesucks_17
lifesucks_17
I am so sorry to hear this, but has your daughter ever considered adoption? Jealousy is not a fun feeling ethier and we all have to go through that emotion sometime in our lives. But there are many options if your daughter really wants a baby. My parents stopped having kids at a certain age so they adopted me! And my mother says that I am no different from her biological kids (which they are all grown now). My grandmother also loves me very much and spoils me to death! So there is always hope! And maybe you could talk to your daughter about how you feel, maybe it will make you feel better. But again, I am very sorry to hear this. I hope you feel better!
Tired
Tired
I think it is normal to feel like you do. Even if your daughter had been
healthy and got married she still may not have wanted a child.
Bluejay96
Bluejay96
My aunt has voiced similar disappointments with her missing out being a grandma. She would have made a wonderful one; I am sure you would have, too!

Seeing the joy, the baby, hearing the stories as the baby grows, etc will cause some pain I'm sure. Yet remember the beautiful gift..... you have experienced miscarriages and deeply understand how fragile life can be. Find peace in knowing this family has not endured that loss.
arfie
arfie
It remains yours to sort, but my humble Arf opine is that you should stop shoulding yourself. Why wouldn't that hurt? I see loads of room for hurt and grief in those lost children and grandchildren. There is room for envy, as well. Those are natural and healthy desires which have been denied you. In a natural rager like myself, I'd be anger channeling on fence posts.

Being sincerely happy for my friends whom I envy is allot easier for me when I can be sincerely honest about that envy and all its gnarly side effects. Gentle honesty can be great fertilizer for friendship.
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