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guitarman79
guitarman79

Yesterday, I went to get lunch at wawa,  The cashier checkout was busy, So, I did the self-checkout (Which  I usually don't do, (Cause of the sencativety of the barcode readers)  Anyway, I thaught I would try   it.  I got a gatorade and hoagie,  But, wasn't  until I got home and finished everything, I looked at the reciept I forgot To pay for the gatorade. I told my parent's, My mom was like,  Oh well,  My dad was like "Why coudn't You pay at the checkout  counter Like the rest of us?" (Which wasn't very supportive or understanding)


Sometimes it's like, My mother is a more understanding and supporive then my father,  And viceversa 


              I was at the shore, and we were about to leave when I finished, So didn't have time to go back.   And of course wasn't my intent not to pay for something.  Next time I will just wait for a casheir.  Im surprised no one said anything to me.  


Im so embarressed,

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Mistakes happen. Let it go.

Your parents' response is their perspective. Your feelings about their response is your perspective. When it comes to your mom, you see the caring. When it comes to your dad, you see what you are sharing. Look for the positive to help you reset your balance and calm.
arfie
arfie
i'm taking the diff in parental responses as evidence that your mother does most of the family shopping. as a veteran shopper currently shopping for a household of 5, i take such SNAFUs as part of the course. i've been charged for the same item twice or items that didn't make it into the grocery bags enough times that i figure, with honest integrity, it all comes out in the wash. SNAFUs happen.

i let it come out in the wash for the big chains. for the smaller, independent operations, i stop by and make amends by letting them know i accidently shoplifted and will happily pay for my theft. i've been rewarded with some lively conversations and appreciation for that move.
hasty_05
hasty_05
Your dad sounds like he enjoys putting other people down. This is about his own personality and need to be shored up ego wise. You can't take anything he says as correct when it is couched in shame and guilt as this one was.

So you made a mistake, you are human. Don't beat yourself up. Let go of the shame and guilt. I have done the same as you. Those self checkouts are sometimes difficult.
AdelynRene
AdelynRene
I totally get the embarrassment. Awhile ago, I had a small bottle of almond extract fall out of the seat of the cart into one of my reusable bags. When I got to the cash and didn't see it with my hundred other items, I assumed I put it back on the shelf due to the price at the time. Of course, I found it when I got home. My family's opinion often goes along the lines of "They screw us over, you might as well screw them over once in awhile." I went back and paid for the item a couple of hours later, because I am not a "screw them over" person.

I am shocked you had a self checkout that wasn't being hovered over. But hey, shit happens! Just gotta be a little more careful next time. I'm sorry that your dad wasn't overly supportive. Absolutely nothing wrong with you trying something new.
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
Your dad made an unproductive comment. People make mistakes, and candidly you just had an oversight, he took the time to say something negative. I think its a good lesson in interpersonal dynamics and emotional intelligence.

Your mom said something supportive and upbeat and you felt a little better, people like that. If you can, its a good idea to be supportive and try to make people feel better. Sometimes people like you dad make such comments because they feel a little down.
Vince3789
Vince3789
Keep doing what makes you feel comfortable, if others have a problem with it, let it be their problem. With anxiety, others might not understand why we do certain things, but they can respect why we do certain things. Hope you're feeling better!
lilmissy7
lilmissy7
Aw it’s okay, we all make little mistakes sometimes
Gentle hug <3
Goldielocks5
Goldielocks5
My father is the same way!

You feel bad as it is that the Gatorade was missed, and its OK. I know you won't make a habit out of sneaking other items out of self check out. Don't worry to much about it. It is just a Gatorade. If it makes you feel better, I had a cashier ring up me up for a $100 worth of groceries and I have no idea what he did but I never got charged for the groceries on my account. Even cashiers make mistakes too :)
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
It's not good to have unchecked and open things in your life and this is bothering you. Let's close it. Go to the post office, get a 5.00 money order, don't put your name on it, send a letter anonymously to the store, apologize that you realized you inadvertently left and want to provide what you owed.
guitarman79
guitarman79
Thank You.

It's interesting that stores can even prosecute for some something so minor like a Gatorade. But, again, wasn't my intent to leave without paying for something.
And The usually do have someone monitoring self-checkout's ......Atleast at grocery stores they do, In case these thing's break down (their not full proof) But, I Don't think anything will happen, Incase it does, I will tell them I will pay them back, if .
confronted,

And the reason I am hard on myself, I guess I was brought up like that, Having to take responsibility for myself and action's

Oh, And as You can tell, Yes I still live with my parent's
guitarman79
guitarman79
UPDATE:I went to that same wawa at the shore, And no one even said anything, or some kind soul paid for the Gatorade. But, yah, no one said anything, or cared.
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