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yoss
yoss

a little backstory: my dad used to be a really bad drug addict


my mom called me this morning to tell me my dad found a rolled up dollar bill on the table. my brother came back from college for christmas and i guess last night he possibly brought coke into their house. i know this isn't my responsibility and i cannot take responsibility for his actions but when my mom calls me with information like that i can't let it go. she's scared of my brothers addictive personality and my dad drools just hearing about it. i think i feel responsible because i've done coke (only on occasion) and not becomw addicted and when i told my brother that he probably thought he could do it too. why do i feel like i have to take this responsibility on?

Restful
Restful
You wouldn’t be human if you weren’t concerned about someone using hard drugs, especially a member of your family, you are correct that you’re not responsible, but perhaps you could reach out to him to express your concerns about his health. That’s pretty much all you can do when it comes to an addict. The choice is their’s to get try to get clean and seek help.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Take a step back.

Stop; pause; breathe.

Your mom called you.

Writing it out is a safe way to release your feelings, thoughts, emotions, and words.

Not a problem for you. Just a heads up for the next time you are in contact with your brother. I would stay out of it.
arfie
arfie
I put the need to take responsibility for other people's actions/problems under the "Co-dependency" theories, along with the helpless feelings of guilt, etc., which accompanies that need.

You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it, Yoss.

Vent freely and vent often here. Steadying support while you sort. You are not alone.
yoss
yoss
i appreciate the support guys. i just cleaned the house to get my mind off of it and now i’m gonna reward myself with some sushi!
arfie
arfie
Most excellent plan, Yoss. Yay you for the magnificent handling of yet another round, all the way to rewarding yourself with a healthy treat! ! !

Well done, indeed.

Pass the sushi.
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