She said “we could reschedule”. That doesn’t sound like a rejection. Anxiety is called “the doubting disease” for a reason and your overthinking and doubt fit the description. Think about it. Making mountains out of molehills is what we with anxiety do until we learn to overcome this doubt.

Remind yourself that you have some control in this situation. You can allow the anxiety to create such doubt about yourself that you are miserable or you can be logical and think about this. Yes, making mountains out of molehills is what we anxiety laden people do.

But let's examine this intrusive thought. Let's say she really did cancel because she doesn't like you or changed her mind about you. Okay, so which is worse - her canceling or going with her and having her act negative because she doesn't want to be with you? What if her cancelation is truth, she is sick? You have the control to call or talk to her or text her in a few days. Ask her if she is feeling better. Or you can offer to bring her meds or food from the store if she needs that kind of help. Be a friend in other words.

Don't beat yourself up. You have value and worth even if this woman is lying. Get out and do something outside to get your mind off your anxiety. You have value and worth and you matter. Keep saying that to yourself.

Some people feel sick a lot of times. They call in sick a lot on their job. I have sever mental illness. I feels bad all the time.
So just wait a little more and see what she will do.

it is much easier said than done when my social anxiety is fissuring tissures in my brain, but my psychotherapy tool for this pony on the not-so-merry-go-round is, "take her words at face value."

friendship needs time to grow and there are many obstacles in life. be gentle with all parties involved and patient with the process.

Thanks everybody. I'm still "doubting"" but I really do think she does like me. I make everything in my head. Last week I convinced myself my boyfriend was going to break up with me.

debate rages over whether my own rendition of this sorry dance is hypervigilance, paranoia, social anxiety or low self-esteem. by whatever name, i get silly with the tilly.

watch out. . . don't believe a word of what that baby playing with daddy's cell phone is tweeting about me.

taking life at face value is hard work for me. . .

I was curious what did you text back to her when she cancelled?

People do get sick. There are colds and flu's going around this time of year. So what she said could very well be the truth.

Text her in a couple days and simply ask - How are you doing?

The hard part about friendships is that we have to make moves, too. We can't wait always for the other person to reach out next. You can do it! Send her the next correspondence. She will appreciate it!

Almost a week later, what has happened since then? Please let us know how you are doing.

I think the fact that she said you could reschedule is a good sign. People get sick and it's completely reasonable to call off plans for it.

Plus, Hasty is right. If she doesn't like you, it's better to know now rather than waste time hanging out. The world is full of people that we won't like, and also those that don't like us. Just have to find the ones that we like that do like us.

Were you successful rescheduling with her?