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control my thoughts

nadia90
nadia90

This is a major, probably my biggest problem, being in control of my own thoughts- I have started meditation and other 'zen' like approaches but I am at a loss, it feels like they take too long and I need a quick result, and yes I know that these things take time and that the end result will be worth the wait, but gosh I do not like waiting. I always hear about these people finding inner peace and this amazing new control of their very own thoughts-I want this, but I have never been able to master this unknown phenomena. My thoughts completely control me, and it is horrible, sometimes the thoughts are good-good feelings and positive things, but for the biggest part of ot right now the thoughts are negative, not always bad, but out of my control and unwanted. Advice? Opinions? Own personal experiences?

Tired
Tired
I would love to feel at peace. I have constant negative thoughts and fears. My thoughts do pretty much control me also. Developing a positive attitude should help some with the negative thoughts. But that takes a whole lot of time and effort to learn. Just like calming my negative, anxious thoughts take effort and plenty of time. I would like a quick fix also. If anyone ever invents a quick fix let me know.
libertybell
libertybell
I don't think there's any quick fixes. I too struggle with negative thoughts and much worse feelings. I try medication helps . I do the headspace app I find it good. But still struggle with thoughts. But I find keeping myself busy is the only ting that works for me..
joshuae83
joshuae83
I used to have thoughts that consumed me. My mind would think about everything that was bad and anything that could happen to me. I wouldn't say I found a inner peace but I just stopped fighting them. I let them happen and then thought myself how to not let it affect me anymore. I focused on other things like my working out at the time and just let that consume my mind. With all the time I used to spend in my head letting it consume all my time I spent in the gym and it turned my life around. I don't know if it will work for you but find something you can be obsessed about other than what is in your mind.
MichaelA
MichaelA
I've found that getting out of myself has made the largest difference in stopping my racing thoughts from controlling me. It seems odd and perhaps I'm just avoiding the issue, however, I've gotten active in volunteer work and just looking for ways to be helpful to others and it shifts my focus to someone else. At least in my experience, most of the time when my thoughts begin to race, I look back in retrospect and find that the thoughts weren't pertaining to anything extremely significant and often my fears weren't based on what was happening so much as what I unrealistically worried about what was going to happen. This is, of course, just what I have found that works for me.
LastAcorn99
LastAcorn99
I can understand your struggles, friend. Please be patient with yourself. Also, like some have mentioned, keeping yourself busy in some sort of activity might help to, it does for me. Sending you hugs and prayers. Take care!
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