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livingly
livingly

I came down stairs after a shower today to my family in the midst of a conflict. Well I didint see the whole thing but from what I saw my sister was upset that my younger sister wanted to watch a certain movie.  With whatever my sister did it made my younger sister cry a lot. My dad then yelled at them saying he was not going to put up with this crap all summer. I remained calm despite being scared. Im now very afraid of what summer will hold and feel like it will be better to be working over the summer. Conflicts like this do happen in my family and they make me feel scared. Conflict scares me and is one of the causes of my anxiety. Does anyone have advice on how to deal with anxiety over conflict. 

arfie
arfie
You hit on my number one strategy for handling conflict between other people: find a more productive place to be. For sure, joining in the melee only makes the conflict bloodier most of the time. Work and/or school are great tools for that strategy. They not only keep you out of slime's way, they can also pave excellent routes to personal independence.

As for managing that all-too-understandable anxiety that comes from exposure to conflict, breathing exercises, playing musical instruments, physical work outs and sharing about ^it^ in my therapy support network are my go-to tools.

Gentle support while you find what works for you, Livingly. Yay you for realizing how much other people's conflicts can affect you, even when the conflict has nothing to do with you.
kkkkkve
kkkkkve
As mentioned, if you are not involved in the conflict and wish to avoid it, finding another activity to use your time may be helpful in separating yourself from it. Especially if it is an activity you can spend away from others that are more prone to conflict or alone entirely. If the conflict is unavoidable however, the most I can suggest it to take your time with it. It may seem counter-intuitive to not attempt to get through the conflict as quickly as possible, but if you can take the time to truly see the perspectives of the others involved it may allow for the conflict to be resolved much more smoothly and peacefully.
Piee0
Piee0
Conflict sucks :( especially angry conflict. Things are said that can't be unsaid which breeds anxiety.

As someone who was a very angry child, going as far as to hit my parents!, I can say that one day your sisters will realize fighting verbally and or physically gets nothing accomplished.

Even the best of us aren't immune to conflict,and I am sure your dad loves all of you!
livingly
livingly
I agree with you on that Piee0 I could tell he was just frustrated.
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