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Asuncion86
Asuncion86

Life seems to be simply difficult lately. My ocd has subsided somewhat but I'm realizing that at the root of my anxiety is low self esteem and not knowing how to release anger. My counselor asked me how I deal with my anger and I was stumped. I guess I repress it and don't let myself feel angry for some reason. Then that turns into anxiety. I think I have a lot of interior work to do and I know how I want to be but I can't seem to be that way yet. The process of integration and maturation is long and arduous. I want to be the new and more confident and joyful version of myself already. In the meantime I have to show up in the world as a quiet and timid person (at least that's how I feel.)

arfie
arfie
Inside of my own psycho snot knots, my low self esteem and my habit repressing anger are deeply knotted together and well-slimed with some hideously toxic snot. Quite allot of that toxic snot has putrefied over the psychotic knots. If science ever masters the art of psychic surgery, I suspect surgical removal of those psycho snot knots would be the best option. If only. . . Sigh. . . I is what I is and I ain't what I ain't.

As it is, learning how to recognize, validate and channel my anger has gone a long way toward healing my self-esteem. There are things in this world should piss of even the goodest of Good Girls. Validate and channel.

So sayeth The Arf. . .

Gentle support while you sort your own case.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
In learning how to manage anger that works for you, it takes accepting that anger is a feeling. It's how you handle that feeling that will give you calm and clear headed 'doing thinking'.

Once I started writing in a private journal and expressing my anger freely and in a safe place, it was easier to sort through everything calmly.

Best wishes as you find your better balance.
mtd
mtd
For myself, I think the low confidence is the reason for the anger. I couldn’t have what I thought I wanted, I found out for myself that what I needed, I didn’t get as a child. Not worldly goods, but what one would get from a nurturing environment. Unconditional love for starters, and no one to go to for support. My mother was not a nurturing type, which left me to figure out life for myself and I’m afraid I didn’t do such a good job of it. The anger was a result of life not working out the way I thought it should, a very bad young marriage to start adulthood off on. So the anger grew out of all this. No support, no direction, no confidence in myself, no clue about real life. I think the lack of nurturing and a cold and histrionic mother (she also suffers A & D), set the stage as well as my own Inherited character traits. Now on to working out all of my own snot knots. I think for me, building my confidence is most important, as I see my anger coming as a direct result of lacking in that category. I hope my own story can give you a bit of food for thought. I see the conundrum as being which came first, the chicken or the egg. Best wishes
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