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Sorry I hate to bring it up as much as the next person but it's coming! So, I have 3 adult children. 2 live on their own. I originally thought of just giving them cash. Not alot. They asked for cash and then I was just kind of joking and said no cash is so impersonal - what do you want as gifts? Well now they have given me wish lists and now my anxiety and guilt are kicking in cause now I want to do both - cash and a nice gift. I love the holidays but the damn stress of it all is really stressing me out. I shouldn't have said anything. Now I am thinking maybe a little less cash and some small gifts? What do you do for Christmas with adult children?
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I've been feeling like I don't matter my wife the other day instead of telling me she was having a pain day when I went to have sex with her she tell me afterwards that she having pain day due to her fribromyalgia and making feel like shit afterward saying she has a list of things from past 9 years of thing for me to do and is always adding more and more to this list and talk...
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((I tried to post this in one of my journals...but DS kept giving me an error message)))Decided to venture to Detroit. I rarely get to this side of the state since my father was murdered on the east side about 41 years ago. My mom and I rarely went to this side, but I recall she visited the Sommset (www.thesomersetcollection.com/) mall with one of her friends a few years ago. She talked about the...
list and a little cash. Or one item from list and something you bake, cook, or
make, An album of pictures from their birth to now.
You are the parent.... what about what YOU want to do? Just having everyone over may be all that you truly want, and not so much all about the material aspect of the holidays.
This is for children growing up.
Second. Tradition changes as children grow up to be adults.
As you mentioned: cash, gift lists, and none of these really expresses the true meaning of gift-giving. Yes, they get what they want from your money spending, but no one really gets the value of giving and receiving gifts this way.
We stopped giving presents and went to stockings. Then we stopped doing stockings for the adults. As the children grow into teens, the gifts have gotten far more expensive, and they know what they are getting.
The matriarch of the family still gives cash to the families of growing children who live far away because they do not like the amount of money being spent on postage.
The local children are still being given gifts but the tradition is changing from big stockings to smaller stockings.
I agree with making a special unique gift like picture, bake, craft, and small amount of cash.
For adult children living at home, we went with a single gift under the tree.
As the parent, it's your choice, your decision, and more importantly, your value of the process of tradition.
We sat down to figure out a positive way to make the change easier for everyone.
There are four generations that get together, so doing any gift giving is expensive.
Best wishes.